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Re: if internet was cut?

11/17/2007 11:11:44 PM ybpublishing
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To those of us who are internet junkies, that is not even a nice thought. I have reduced my internet time but the internet is something that can be quite addictive to many.

Re: Internet is my Lifeline

11/17/2007 11:21:29 PM ybpublishing
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The way you can determine if you are addicted to the internet or not is....

Would you rather be online then go do things with your family and friends in real life?

Do you tend to tell others to wait for you when you on the computer and they want you to do something (regardless if you have a rational for what you are doing online or not- even if you feel it is more important that what others wants you to do)?

When you are away from the computer for 1 day, do you feel you must get back online to see all that you missed such as if there are any new orders, read the mail, read the news, and so forth?

Many people who are addicted to the internet (or any other kind of addiction) thinks that they are not addicted... they can handle it. The truth of the matter lies in what others are seeing. If your family and friends are telling you that you are addicted to the internet, maybe they are right. They are probably telling you this because you are taking away from the time that you should be spending with them or having a real life. I know this first hand from personal experience both being someone who has had this addiction and dealing with my husband who is even more addicted to the internet than I am. We all try to justify why we do all the things we do such as spending hours and hours on the internet... but the truth is in others preception.

Re: Bosses crack down on internet socializing

11/17/2007 11:37:26 PM ybpublishing
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Hi Kyrie,

I agree with you! If you are at work, you are getting paid to work not play on the computer all day. I guess I have a very strong work ethic. It is different if the person is on their lunch break, then that is alright, but not surf or chat during the time they are suppose to be working.

Text Messaging Addictions

11/17/2007 11:42:00 PM ybpublishing
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Hi,

Text Messaging seems to be the new kind of addiction these days. With everyone having cell phones, many people are spending their time chatting on text instead of doing what they are suppose to do. An example of this is a guy who works with me seems to always be texting the whole time he is working. I have even seen him texting while he is driving. This can be very dangerous! I saw a tv program where a youth was so addicted to texting that he ended up killing someone because he didn't see someone walking by the side of the road. Many people have had automobile accidents. This is not cool.

Re: Illegal stuff

11/17/2007 11:46:47 PM ybpublishing
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There is good and bad in most things in life. The internet can bring out the best or worst in each person. Some people who others would consider very good even might do bad things online just because they can get by with it. I guess it really brings out one's true character.

Enabling Others

11/17/2007 11:56:00 PM ybpublishing
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Unfortunately, those who are associated with those who have addictions often enable them. I know that it is not easy to deal with. I read a very good book when I was taking classes in rehabiltation counseling. It was called "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. She has some other excellent addiction books to read also that deals with codependence.

Waking Up To Denial

11/18/2007 12:07:00 AM ybpublishing
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Getting over one's addiction is not easy to do. Many times we do not even know that we have the addiction. It requires others to make it known to us that we have a problem or something serious happening to us in our life to get us out of this denial.

For me.... it took me having a stroke to wake me up to the fact that I have an addiction.

Starting Early

11/18/2007 12:14:00 AM ybpublishing
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I am recovering from my alcohol addiction. I have not had a drink since 1998 when my mother was dying of cancer. Before taking a drink then, it was in 1988 when I stopped drinking after I had a stroke. I started drinking when I was young. I can remember even when I was like 8-9 years old being allowed to have a drink or two from my parent's beer or drinking the wine that my father and I would make.

My parents did not have a problem with me drinking as long as I did not get into trouble. I was a very good student at school and never got into trouble with the police. I was a model child (so everyone thought) except that I sometimes would drink on the weekends. I guess I was lucky that I didn't get into trouble or get caught by the authorities.

Alcoholics do not have to be those who you visualize who gets into trouble or even become uncontrollable with their lifes. There are different kinds of alcoholics. I was more of a weekend alcoholic. I didn't need a party to drink. Often I would drink by myself... not first thing in the morning either. There were times when I would drink in a party atmosphere, but I preferred drinking alone or with a friend or two. I preferred this so that I didn't get into trouble or do something stupid. I didn't like drinking in the bars because guys tends to try to take advantage of your impaired state. That was the last thing that I needed.

I would love to hear some of everyone else's experiences about how young they started drinking and the outcomes.

My Mother's Lung Cancer

11/18/2007 12:33:00 AM ybpublishing
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Hi,

I want those of you who smoke to know how aweful it is to wake up one day and not be able to breathe because of cancer. In 1998, my mother was taken to the local hospital in our small hometown because her lung had colapsed. The doctors reinflated her lungs and put a tube in it to drain the liquid that had settled in it. They found something when they xrayed her lungs. They did not know if it was TB, mold, or cancer from the xray. Then she was taken to a larger hospital in Indianapolis. At this hospital, they found she cancer after she had a biopsy of her lungs. They found that no only did she have lung cancer, she had cancer in her stomach too. When they started her chemotherapy, she ended up having a massive stroke. The doctors performed CPR on her and got her back to life after she had stopped breathing. She ended up being on a respirator for about 1 week. She finally woke up from her coma. we sent her to a rehabilitation hospital where she could learn how to do everything again- so she could have a better quality of life for the short months that she would live. During the last month of her life, the pain from the lung cancer was so great that she would plead with me to kill her. I told her there was no way that I could do such a thing! I also reminded her that she would go to hell forever if she tried doing it too.. and that it wasn't worth it.... so I got the doctors to allow her more pain medicine for better pain management.... We hired home health to manage her pain and provide her with support. She died 7 months later after she was diagnosed.

We always think that it isn't going to happen to us.... but we are dead wrong!

Cyber sex addictions

11/18/2007 12:43:00 AM ybpublishing
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Cyber sex addiction seems to be on the rise. Many men and women engage in this and it has been breaking up households. Some people tend to get enjoyment from the cyber world other then just chatting. Cyber sex addiction can be much more than guys or women looking at pornographic matters on the internet. There are many sites online that offers those who are looking for such things outlets. I am not talking about the porn site either. I am talking about some of the programs that you probably use yourself such as Paltalk, Yahoo Messenger, MSN, and many more just to name a few. People use cams, mics, and chat to engage in this behavior. Many spouses do not even realize that their partner is doing this.

I would like to hear from others about this topic.

Re: Money/Business Online

11/18/2007 12:47:43 AM ybpublishing
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I can understand your friend's motivation to being online and even loosing sleep. I hope that he can make enough money online so he doesn't have to work the regular 9-5 type of job. It is no different than being a workaholic. Making money can be very motivational.

Private information such as telephone numbers and address being posted

11/18/2007 8:40:00 PM ybpublishing
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Hi,
I was just noticing someone's profile. I was upset that it contained personal information such as the person's telephone number, address, and more. Is this information displayed in everyone's profile from the information they gave when we registered? This really takes away from one's privacy.

Re: three little boys

12/11/2007 1:09:17 AM ybpublishing
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I am sure these boys did have something other than TV that influenced them. They had to have learned about this type of behavior from someone. Chances are, those boys (at least one of them) had been sexually abused. Children who have been abused tend to have the desire for sex in a different way and earlier than their non-abused counterparts. Maybe one of them was the aggressive one and the other two went along with it because either to look cool or from being bullied.

Re: Weeds

12/11/2007 1:13:47 AM ybpublishing
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I have not seen this series, but most of the stations have shows that has tons of sex on it. It use to be that those type of shows would not come on until after 10pm, not any more! Even the animated shows like Family Guy has too many sexual subjects.... and who likes to watch Family Guy? Kids do! I know that is my son's favorite show. It bothers me that even the cartoons have to be about sex. Children learn about sex at a much earlier age than when I was a kid.

Re: Porn In cellphones

12/11/2007 1:18:32 AM ybpublishing
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ImDaThang wrote
I heard they earn like 6 billion or something like that.

I am sure one site does not make that, but I am certain that it is a 6 billion dollar industry. It really is a shame! I am sure many people record alot of sexy pictures and even videos on their cell phones. I guess they don't have to worry about taking their film to Walmart to get developed and be embarrased by it... instead they post those pictures and movies on the internet to see. I guess they think that the local yocal from their home town would never see it online. Think again!

Re: Newbie: help.

12/11/2007 1:39:37 AM ybpublishing
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Hi Opal!

i understand what you are going through. It is not about the sex itself... it is about the acceptance. You use sex as a means for feeling loved. It isn't fair sometimes that men can expect sex from his wife/girlfriend when he wants it but when she want it he doesn't have to give it. We all have physical and emotional needs. Some people would probably tell you to use other means to eliminate your sexual frustration.... but those things don't take care of the problem itself. True, the problem is not a physical matter. It is one of emotional and spiritual matters. Emotionally you are craving for his love and attention. He might not be able to give you everything that you need. Your demands for attention and sex is more than he can manage. Is he having some issues with sex within himself that might be causing him to not to want to have sex with you? He might be having feelings of guilt or feeling like he is inadequate if he knows of your sexual prowess.

Something you must take care of for both yourself and for him.... you must get rid of this frustration and age that you get when he says no. I understand by him saying no, you feel like he is rejecting you. You need to stop thinking of it in that way. It isn't fair for him to be abused physically and verbally by you because he doesn't want sex. You can take an aggression management course. Even aggression management such as tearing up the phone book is better than you taking out your rage and frustration on him. I understand where you are.... been there, done that.

Best wishes,
Vickie

Re: Internet Shops

12/11/2007 1:48:10 AM ybpublishing
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Did you realize that there are ways around kids watching porn or seeing whatever they want despite parents setting up filters on their PCs and televisions. On the internet there are websites out there that are devoted to skewing where people go without being found. I can't remember what those sites are called now... but I have seen them. It looks like a normal type of a site so parents would not think of banning it. It has a link where you can paste or find whatever you want there.... like a separate search engine inside the site to go to outside sites. Parents really need to see where their children have been.

Paltalk Addiction

1/16/2008 10:23:00 PM ybpublishing
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Paltalk and other chats can be very addictive. It seems like I will go on there and stay hours on there loosing track of time while I am there.

Re: Student survey

1/17/2008 3:03:31 PM ybpublishing
15 Posts

Canibus has been used as a medicinal treatment for pain and other ailments for about 4,000 years around the world. It was used as a pain reliever before the use of aspirins. It was banned in 1937.

Re: Ritalin the answer?

1/17/2008 6:31:07 PM ybpublishing
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i do not think that ritalin is the answer at all. I work with kids who have attention deficit disorder and many other problems. Many of the children that i work with also have autism. Many doctors are so keen on prescribing medications without really balancing risk vs. benefits. Many of the psychotropic medications have side effects that do not necessarily show up initally. Behavior modification can work with many of these children but no one seems to want to spend the time on giving the child a little attention or working with them.

Re: Addiction a Mental Illness?

1/17/2008 7:02:29 PM ybpublishing
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Have you been seen by a doctor and prescribed Lithium? Lithium can help you stay more on the "normal" side instead of the dramatic ups and downs. You need to stay on your medications. If your medications are not working you need to go back to your doctor or another doctor if you do not feel comfortable with the original doctor so you can be re-evalluated. Sometimes, medications can be prescribed that can cause problems such as sudden urges and obsessions. You should check to see if the medications that you are on have adverse reactions, and any contraindications with use with the other medications that you are on. You can alway check with your pharmacist. Sometimes the doctors do not catch the contraindications and if you are purchasing your medications from more than 1 pharmacy, the pharmacist does not catch it also. Do get evaluated.

Re: Posible Anxiety Attack

1/17/2008 7:21:34 PM ybpublishing
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Has something been bothering you lately that caused the anxiety? When you had your attack in the night, were you in a bad dream or something that was anxiety provoking? The tightness in your chest could have been something else other than an anxiety attack. If there was any pain such as feeling a knife sticking in your lungs, that could be pluracy. If the tightness in your chest was like an animal was sitting on your chest, it could be a more serious problem. You should get checked out by a doctor.

Re: Controlled Dreaming

1/17/2008 7:28:00 PM ybpublishing
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Yes, some people can control their dreams. It takes alot of time in order to do so and alot of practice. I use to have very bad dreams and I was able to go back into my dreams to control the outcome.

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