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you can do it
5/3/2007 1:24:00 PM southerngirlie
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People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily.
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mom
5/21/2007 8:55:00 AM southerngirlie
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so this weekend was my aunts 60th birthday. my aunt and her boyfriend came to the house before we left for dinner and my mom and them started drinking..now i dont think my mom is an alcoholic, but her character changes when shes around certain people. so she had some drinks at the house and my aunt and her boyfriend werent drunk but they are always loud anyways so when my mom is around them shes way louder than she normally would be. so we were seated and everyone at all the tables around us were giving us dirty looks because they were so loud! they all continued to drink with dinner so it just got worse and worse. im a christian and my mom claims to be but if she is then why is she acting that way? i dont kow if drinking will get u to hell, but being drunk like that in public isnt good and she is a christian i dont think she should be acting like that..i just would like to know what other people think..am i being oversensative or can u see where im coming from..thanks
pets
6/25/2007 11:17:00 AM southerngirlie
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i know this must happen to a lot of people, but i am having a really hard time dealing with this. i found out a week ago that my dog has cancer. i know its just a dog, but to me shes more a part of my family. i think most people feel that way when they have a pet. we have had her since i was in the sixth grade and shes the only pet i really remember having. i know how close she is with my dad too and it just breaks my heart. my sister and i just moved out of the house, but we felt better knowing that our dad still had hannah, our dog, but it just makes it worst because now she is sick on top of everything else. it would be so helpful to hear of others experiences and how to deal with this. i just feel so bad, but im praying for her and i know whatever is supposed to happen will happen for a reason
Are you addicted to shopping?
9/14/2007 3:47:00 PM southerngirlie
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Are you a binge buyer? Does retail therapy make you feel better after a bad day? How often do you hit the mall or shop online? How much are you willing to spend to make yourself feel better? Shopping without ever thinking about the costs is a big problem. It may even be an addiction. A study by the American Journal of Psychiatry found one out of 12 people (nearly as many men as women) are compulsive shoppers — and their shopping habits often damage their work, relationships and finances.

If you’re juggling credit card bills and pouring money into finance charges just to be able to shop a little more, your spending has probably spun out of control. You may not even realize how much credit card debt you’ve accumulated, or how many other bills went unpaid as you added another pair of shoes to your shelf. Did you think about how much you could have socked away in your retirement nest egg, or for your kid’s college education, or put into emergency reserves, if you’d saved just a little of that money you spent? You need to stop financing your future. To do that, you have to change the way you shop.

1. Know what you have
Look in your closet or around the house before you shop. If you have enough shoes, dresses, kids’ clothes or electronics to last you for the next year — or at least for this season — stop! You don’t need to buy another couple of outfits from Gymboree for the kids, a new gold chain or purse.

2. Carry a shopping list
Make a list of what you plan to buy and what you plan to spend on each item before you shop. This should help stop impulse buys.

3. Put items that you want to buy “on hold”
Put items that you want to buy “on hold.” When you’re shopping and see an item you want, don't buy it ... yet. Ask the store to hold the item for you for a day or two. Take another spin around the mall — or better yet, go home, and come back only if you really want it and need it. Again, this can help curb impulse buying.

4. Don't be a sucker for sales
I get coupons for sales at Lord & Taylor every week. As soon as I think I’ve found a bargain, the store often slashes prices another 15 percent. If I don’t really need the dress or the earrings, I don’t buy them. I tell myself “There will be more sales.”

5. Bring cash, leave the plastic
Take cash, check or a debit card with you when you shop. Leave your credit cards at home. If you’ve racked up loads of credit card debt, you not only need to change the way you shop, you need to work on changing the way you handle your finances.

6. Track what you spend
Face it. Don't fudge it. Write down everything that you bought this week, this month, and how much you spent. Don’t round the numbers down. Put down the exact price. You need to see where your money is going.

7. Cut up your credit cards
If you’re in credit card debt, you don’t need to be tempted to spend more on credit. Use cash, checks or a debit card. Online shoppers who don’t want to put purchases on a debit card may want to get an American Express card. You need a charge card that forces you to pay the full balance each month. American Express also offers online tools to help you track your spending.

8. Pay off credit card debt
Make a list of all of your credit cards, the balance due, minimum payment due and interest rate. Put the card with highest interest rate at the top. Plan to pay off that balance first. Talk to creditors about lowering the interest rate if you promise to make payments above the minimum amount due every month. If they agree, call other creditors and see if they’ll do the same.
9. Seek financial advice
Talk to a financial advisor or credit counselor. Big spenders aren't usually good savers. You may be jeopardizing your retirement and other financial goals with your spending. Work out a plan to balance paying down your debt and saving for the future.

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