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RE: Mackenzie Phillips
9/3/2008 10:39:28 AM lyf
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Lol I get what you mean about how celebs admit that they struggle with drugs just like everyone else.  Her reason for quitting seems pretty simple but legitimate enough to quit.  It seems like celebs would have less incentive to quit recreational drug use because they obviously have the money to support occasional binges, and it's a lot easier to get drugs.  It's nice to hear more celebs stepping up to the plate and admitting that they messed up.
RE: A Chinese Cure for Internet Addiction
9/3/2008 11:25:05 AM lyf
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Doesn't it damage your memory too?  It seems like a person would be like a zombie after a session of that!  I have a few guesses about why so many Chinese are addicted to the Internet. 
maybe we should begin to question what the root causes of the “addiction” are. Lack of sports /recreational facilities, a mundane/dull media, lack of parks/open spaces and an over emphasis on homework. In addition, Chinese kids seem to lack basic social skills - one reason being the only child kids don’t appear to interact with their peers as other kids in families of 2 and more kids.
1. If you have traveled to the poorer regions of China, you will be shocked to find how packed the internet cafes are throughout the whole night. It is very cheap to spend the whole night there (less than $1.5 for a whole night of computer usage), which becomes the nightly activity of choice for many poor teenagers. So i believe, low income is a more important reason for them to spend time on computer instead of drinking and partying.

2. Most of them are either playing online games or I.M.ing their friends,or doing both at the same time, all activities highly addictive in their nature. So blame the gaming companies (i.e., Blizzard) for introducing great games and a great IM product of the Chinese company (HongKong-listed Tencent) for capturing more users than those of China Mobile, the largest mobile company in the world.
RE: Scratch and Win!
9/3/2008 2:48:47 PM lyf
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That's a crazy story, I guess they had good intentions with their money after all.  I wonder if it was their church or just a random one?  If I won three million dollars........ lol
RE: Tips on getting a teen sober
9/8/2008 8:12:52 AM lyf
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That's really true.  When my cousin was using, my aunt started going to specialized therapy for family of meth users.  It helped her a lot I think.  One time her son's therapist told her that she was scared of her son.  And she really was, he was turning into a different person and she was scared of his temper and when he was using. 
RE: Elephant cured of drug addiction
9/8/2008 8:18:16 AM lyf
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That's terrible, I can't believe they gave it heroin!  I read in the news about how some monkeys and gorillas that are in zoos, often get addicted to cigarettes because of all the tourists.  I saw a chimp on the news who was smoking a lit cigarette because a tourist gave it to him!  That's really sad too, they're not humans!  They don't know it's bad for them. 
Drugs in Bangkok
9/8/2008 8:40:55 AM lyf
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  Even though most addicts struggle to obtain sobriety, at least we have the option of drug treatment, NA/AA, and detox to help us in the US.  In other countries like Bangkok and Afganistan, they have virtually nothing to keep them off drugs, let along help them get off of them.  It's so sad, because kids are raised in this environment, and with everyone around them using, and drugs being offered like candy, it's hard to commit to staying off drugs.  They're available at cheap prices, 24 hours a day, along with prostitution.  In the US, it's a big risk buying drugs, because the police do a pretty good job monitoring this, but also there are many laws in place that inhibit drug dealers being on the streets.  It's just amazing to me how easy it is to get drugs in other contries and even some parts in the U.S.
RE: Different Nationalities
9/8/2008 9:00:07 AM lyf
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My family was strict with me when I was younger.  Up until I was about 15, I had a lot of rules.. and then after that the rules got less demanding, but my parents had raised me right, so they trusted me a lot.  I'm hispanic, and I think parents of hispanic girls especially are really strict.  I think culture can play a big role in how kids are raised.  It adds to your identity, and where you came from, I grew up with a lot of pride in my family.  I think that helped keep me off drugs, because I just wanted to be like me, not like everyone else and what they were doing. 
RE: Brits Like 'em Big?
9/8/2008 9:37:46 AM lyf
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I understand that most guys like healthy looking women.  But it's completely untrue that the only beautiful women are size zero.  I have a brother and I often seek his opinion about which girls look good and what makes girls attractive.  It all depends on each girl, if she's shape according to her body size.  I have a good friend who is absolutely beautiful and she's a size four.  Even when she was underweight after being sick, she was a size two.  She was broad hips and will probably never be a size zero.  It's just not the way her body is made.  However, a lot of guys love her curvy figure!  She has great legs and a great body in general, but she's not a size zero, nor does she want to be, and that's great!
RE: Tanorexia
9/8/2008 9:44:19 AM lyf
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That's really sad, bc I love feeling like I don't have to wear make up.  Tan and skinny is not the only beautiful look out there.  I think girls should enhance their natural beauty, because that's the way you're supposed to look.  But I think tanorexia is more about self esteem issues, their outside appearance is how they judge themselves. 
RE: Re: Social Anxiety
9/8/2008 9:51:02 AM lyf
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Hmm, did your anxiety come on suddenly or have you always had it?   You may have developed an anxiety disorder and might want to try visiting your doctor to recommend a treatment.  There's no reason to feel trapped and anxious to the point where you get sick.  You're going to be in many situations where you don't know very many people around you, and there's no reason that it shouldn't be a good experience.
Parents Who Step it Up
10/8/2008 9:17:58 AM lyf
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Addiction has affected probably millions of families across the world.  Sometimes one of the parents simply abandons the family and that's so sad, especially for children who have no say in the affairs of their parents.  I give a lot of credit for the parents who do stick around and do what has to be done to survive.  My mom is a hero in my eyes because even though life has been extremely hard these last few years, I know she'd do it all over again just for her kids.  When you have kids, you have to do the best you can to provide them with the best care and love.  I really believe that a parent can only be as happy as their children are.  If the children are sad, then the parents are sad.  But children look to their parents for direction, and when they're faced with a problem, they see how their parents react and handle the situation. 
Teens Talking About Drugs
10/8/2008 9:36:04 AM lyf
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    It's probably hard for teens to get real answers about drugs and their affects on the mind.  There are a number of high schools on the east coast there are having online discussions between students and scientists that have experience in addiction research and counseling.  It's a good way of getting students to open up and get answers to questions they've been wondering about.  It might not get every student off drugs, but it could prevent some students from trying drugs just out of curiosity.
    I think students are opening up because it's online, so it's anonymous and also they don't have the judgment from their peers. 
Drug Drop Box Helps Get Pills off Streets
10/8/2008 9:41:31 AM lyf
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   A new drug drop-box at the Burlington Police Department is helping in the fight to get prescription drugs off the streets.  The disposal box will be put in place to help those in the community throw away pills the right way.  Apparently they've had a lot of success with it.  The importance is to get it out of the hands of the people who would abuse them, either by the drugs or crushing and using them themselves.  Disposing of the pills quickly takes residents off the radar of people who want to steal the drugs.
RE: Leaving Your Husband
10/8/2008 9:47:08 AM lyf
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If there is physical abuse, then the responsible parent needs to inform the police and have them take care of it.  Or they could simply take the children and go stay with a friend or relative.  Being with an abusive spouse is going to affect everyone involved, but especially the children.  When you have children, they should be your number one priority.  There are many cases where the abuser is mentally and emotionally abusive.  I'm sure they weren't like that during the dating and engagement, they may have gotten bitter over time.  The wedding vows say in sickness and in health.  To mentally abuse someone, a person has to be sick.  It's not right and they've obviously hurting inside also.  Maybe stage a family meeting with people who care and can give that person helpful advice on how they treat their family and how it's affecting them, and most importantly that it needs to stop.
Partner Who Gambles
10/14/2008 12:48:26 PM lyf
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I have a pretty serious problem so could I please have serious answers please.
Anyway I have a boyfriend who I have been with almost 2 years with. He is the most sensitive and caring man I have ever met. The only problem is he is known for that he has a gambling addiction to pokies.
He seems financially o.k now but you never know with a gambler. He wants to get married and move in and everything and loves me with all his heart and he said that he would wait for me. I love him and I do want to help him but I don't think it will happen. Besides my family doesn't accept him.
I really don't know what to do, I can't break up with him and hurt him but I don't want to have a miserable life. He will probably just go into depression again and who knows what will happen.
Thanks guys to anyone who can help me, greatly appreciated.
RE: New Cigarette Warnings
10/14/2008 1:47:51 PM lyf
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For heavy smokers, it will probably take more than real pictures to convince them to quit, the nicotine controls them that way.  But I think it could prevent some kids from picking up the habit, and also reinforce the reasons for non smokers.
Is God Using The Economy To Judge The Nation's Sins?
10/14/2008 2:08:04 PM lyf
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     There have been many Christian movements on the Internet regarding the sins of our nation.  We've moved tremendously from principles that this country was founded upon.  The economy is taking a turn for the worse, the stock market is decreasing everyday, and the $700 billion bail out isn't making a difference.  Many people can agree that the one true answer is to turn back to God.  This nation was once greatly blessed by God, but today we let unspeakable things happen everyday.  We slaughter over four thousand babies a day through abortion, we live in rebellion of God's truths and creations.  God is a God of mercy and love, but he is also a God of judgment. 
     I'm not saying this as unpatriotic, but I feel like our nation has only begun to feel His punishment.  What wasn't right 100 years ago, still isn't right today.  Just because we're living in an age where sex is portrayed everywhere, it doesn't mean we have to support it, and allow it.  I think the solution to turn our country around is to give more respect to God and raise the new generation righteously, so that the world doesn't get worse and worse.  
RE: Vicodin
10/14/2008 2:11:47 PM lyf
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Um, yes they're basically the same thing.  Instead of taking these medications and then having to take other medication to counteract the cravings, anyone can simply request the non-narcotic pain relievers. =)
RE: Oprah Special on Cheating Spouses
10/22/2008 9:17:57 AM lyf
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I think the appreciation has to go both ways, and it certainly is no excuse to cheat.  They may not be showing enough attention, but going off and cheating on them is showing them zero appreciation.  A relationship is equal give and take.  If there are problems, or someone is feeling unappreciated, which is common, then there needs to be open discussion about it.  Cheating is a very selfish act.  It's mean and unnecessary.  I really don't think anyone should be in a relationship unless they're ready to completely commit.  You may end up falling in love, so if falling in love is scary or you're scared of how you might hurt them, then it'd be best to quit while you're ahead and spare their feelings.  Anyone who keeps cheating may need to get help and consider getting help for what may be an addiction.
RE: i can go without it, can you?
12/23/2008 1:51:02 PM lyf
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For some reason I can fall asleep to movies, but not to tv.  It's weird, I'm a total channel surfer, I'm always looking for something more interesting to watch and I get really into shows.  But to movies, I know I can just re-watch what I missed, and get into it all over again later. 
RE: Identity Crisis, Leading to Addiction
12/23/2008 2:00:10 PM lyf
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I have never seen my mom drink and it's been a good impact on my life.  My dad on the other hand was an extreme alcoholic, so I saw how much my dads life got messed up.  I think it's up to the parent to teach responsible drinking.. and especially for the dads also.  Like always have at least one parent completely sober so that the kids don't think that buzzed driving is okay. 
Searching for Parents
12/23/2008 3:58:19 PM lyf
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  I'm a big fan of the show TrueLife on Mtv.  And recently there was an episode about teens and young adults who were trying to find their parents who had abandoned them.  One of the girls was graduating college and really wanted her mom to be there, even though she hadn't been in her life for many years.  She finally found her mom and was asking around the druggie part of town, trying to see if anyone had seen or heard from her.  Her mom was living in a field alongside the freeway and was staying in a tent with her stuff everywhere.  It was really sad to even watch, but I can't imagine how the daughter felt.  She treated her mom to new clothes and a hotel room, and lunch everyday.  But it was so horrible, when the daughter brough up paying for a month at rehab, the mom just got up and started walking away like she had just been insulted or completely disowned.  The mom was 46 years old, living in a tent, and refused to even give her daughter the time of day when the topic of rehab was brought up. 
   Watching this show and seeing things from both points of views made me realize how some people are so incredibly addicted, that they cannot even see when someone is really reaching out to them. 
RE: Holly Jolly Christmas shopping
12/24/2008 8:25:26 AM lyf
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That's extremely bad thinking if you ask me!  I wonder if they were actually trying to do a drug deal, and the person who was supposed to pick it up never actually showed up.  Because why else would someone bring that much drugs and money to the mall??
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