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Re: When do you have your first Cigarette ?
2/3/2008 8:58:20 PM leighdu
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megan22 wrote
I was able to kick the smoking habit, but back when I was a smoker, I had a cigarette the first thing in the morning when I woke up before anything else. It was usually the first thing on my mind every morning.


It was always in the mornings for me: Coffee and cigarettes . I didn't always drink coffee but usually within 30 minutes I lit up.
Re: Jaiggermaiester
2/3/2008 9:05:20 PM leighdu
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fief wrote
I use to drink jager almost every weekend. I didnt really like the taste, just the way it went down and the effect it gave me. It does seem to get you drunk pretty easily. The alcohol content in it is actually lower than most hard liquers (35% compared to 40%). I researched Jagermeister ingredients a few years ago because i heard that if you drink a whole bottle you will hallucinate. Jager contains wormwood which is a root and its oil is poisonous and will cause hallucinations. However, It is made with very small amounts of wormwood (1/1000s of the amount need to hallucinate) which I believe gives it that taste, and may be a reason it gets people drunker than normal. Absinthe is another liquer that is made with wormwood and some other similar ingredients to Jagermeister but it usually has atleast twice as much alcohol content and is known to be halluncinogenic. It is also illegal in the US.


What is illegal in the US ? Are you talking about Absinthe? Because last time I checked , Jaigger was still legal here, even though it shouldn't be. I'm pretty sure you are talking about Absinthe though, which I haven't heard about, but from the sounds of it I should be glad this stuff is illegal.
Re: Nobody wants to date someone who stinks of nicotine
2/3/2008 9:11:42 PM leighdu
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princess2008 wrote
Yep it is extremely hard to quit and I dont think non smokers realise just how hard it is. I am trying to cut down at the moment and I have been doing really well as in the last year I have been smoking a lot more than I used too. The last few days Ive literally cut my smoking in half. One thing I will say though is that a lot of smokers especially myself and friends are so aware of the smell etc that like me they carry plenty of mints and my bestfriend always cleans her teeth and sprays her clothes after a cigarette! It's just being able to quit it all together.


I've been a good streak and haven't smoked in a while, and even though it is tough, I'm hoping it is not impossible. One thing I have learned is that the majority of the cravings after 72 hours are gonna be in your mind. It can be done though. There are times when all I do is sit and think about puffing away. But the feeling does pass and I am glad I do not give in. Hang in there. Cutting down even half a pack is much better than not cutting down at all.

As far as the smell, I never smoked in my house, in my car, or in any confined spaces. I would always go outside where there is wide open space and then give myself plenty of time to air out, then use mints, wash my hands, etc. religiously to get rid of any smoke smell.
Re: Internet rehab?
2/3/2008 9:18:36 PM leighdu
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Georgette08 wrote

Well I'm definitely not ashamed to admit this here, so I'll just tell you because this is just an overwhelming situation. I've been in two serious relationships over the past three years and I lost both due to my Internet addiction. I have an infatuation with online relationships and cybersex. It’s something deep inside me that I can’t seem to control. I’ve felt so many times like this is ruining my life, but I still can’t stop. It’s like it’s never enough. I feel like I can never truly be happy with myself, walking around with this in my head, because in my heart I know it’s wrong but I still just can’t control it.

Has anyone on this site been to Internet addiction rehab? Does that even exist?




Hi there,

There is definitely no reason to be ashamed of your addiction, and I am glad you posted. There are many people who are still a bit confused as to what internet addiction entails, and in my opinion your symptoms would definitely put you in the extremely high risk zone for being an internet addict.

As far as internet rehab, I am really not too sure. But I do know that there are several people here on these forums that can relate and maybe even going through the same thing as you. Stick around a while, and I am sure you will find lots of support and information. Maybe someone else knows about internet rehab?
Re: does drinking lead to drugs?
2/6/2008 6:05:15 AM leighdu
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Rocky wrote
Do you think drinking a lot leads to using other drugs? I was drunk the first time I used coke and I got hooked on it ever since. But if I wasn't drunk I really dont think I would have accepted it.


Yes, it definitely can. People get hooked like you do because they do things they wouldn't normally do if not drinking, and the whole lifestyle always makes it a bit easier to get into drugs. Of course there are also drinkers who would never try drugs so it is definitely not set in stone, but yes, I think in some instances it can lead to drugs.
How much have you lost on Gambling?
2/6/2008 6:08:00 AM leighdu
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I don't have a gambling addiction so my losses have been minimal, but several of my family members do. I have an uncle who has lost thousands upon thousands yet refuses to give up get help. Just wondering how much everyone else has lost on gambling?
Re: Its fun
2/6/2008 6:13:24 AM leighdu
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Vaminos88 wrote
I really enjoy gambling. I mean I dont gamble too much. Whenever I go to vegas which is a few times a year I do blow out a lot of money but when I gamble like at casinos close to home I keep my self limited. Like only 100 or 200$, depending on how rich i am at that time lol. But if I'm not really a compulsive gambler and but I gamble occasionally do you think I could develope a preblem? I do enjoy gambling a lot though.


Gambling is originally meant to be fun and of course to make a little money in the process. It is the people that get addicted and abuse the priviledge that have given gambling a bad name. It sounds to me like you have a healthy relationship with gambling. Have fun!
Re: Do I?
2/6/2008 6:23:20 AM leighdu
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Nellie wrote
This forrum is interesting hehe I never thought shopping addictions were serious. My friends and parents say I have one and my aprents get pretty mad about it but I always took it as a joke. I dont think I have a problem. But I do go to the mall atleast 4 times a week, and usually always buy something if not more. I dont spend way too much though I limit myself to 100 or 200 dollars and never go over it. Do I have an addiction? honestly?


Wow, that's quite a lot to spend each month on shopping, but you didn't say what it is you are buying each week. Since you say you go to the mall then I assume you aren't talking about groceries or appliances for the home that you NEED. This doesn't mean you are addicted though. Can you easily give up buying something each week that you don't need? If you can then you probably are not addicted but you just really like to shop. If you have the money to live the lifestyle then why not? It is when you are using shopping as a way to fullfill some void in your life and/or when you cannot stop that you may have an addiction.
Re: Edit Option
2/6/2008 6:30:02 AM leighdu
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Quenlin wrote
From personal experience, edit buttons are more trouble than they're worth, it's too easy to offend a huge amount of people, and then edit your post to make them sound like the bad guys. I see it all the time.

Although, deleting posts would be a good feature to have.


I think in that case there should be a place showing that the original post has been edited and then we should have to give a reason why. Yeah, it happens more often than not on these boards where people completely change their original post. Maybe a better suggestion would be to allow 15 minutes after posting for editing, and then after that you are stuck with what you have posted.
Re: Writers' Strike is a cure for TV addiction!
2/6/2008 6:35:28 AM leighdu
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Fardreamer wrote
Rocky wrote
I dont think the writers strike will have much of an impact. Once they
start writing agian, the addicts will go right back to watching the
shows. It may give them a break, but if your a TV addict I'm sure
you'll watch anything else not just the one show your waiting for. I
always set aside my sunday nights at 9 to watch desperate housewives,
but when it doesn't come on I still stay watching TV but just watch
something else.


Maybe it also depends on how deep the TV addiction runs. There is, I think, a real distinction between fans of specific shows that they will miss if they don't air but can literally live without, and addicts that can't function without having the TV on no matter what programs are on, so long as there's something on the television screen.


I think that an addict is an addict. Yeah, they won't be able to watch their favorite shows, but most people addicted to televsion will always find something to watch. Most use television as a way to escape reality and lose themselves in another world, so if their favorite shows are not on, I am willing to bet there is much more out there they will watch. You have to remember also that with cable, there is a plethora of things to be found on t.v.
Re: How much TV watching is "too much"?
2/6/2008 6:47:27 AM leighdu
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BettyBlue wrote
Because of my work schedule and other activities I enjoy, I think I'm lucky to not be totally addicted to TV, but I might be at least a bit addicted, since most of my leisure time does revolve around what's on, especially at night.



When I was younger, if the TV wasn't on in the room I was in, I wasn't happy. Even if I was doing homework or playing games on my first computer, if I at least didn't hear the noise from a running TV set, I'd be restless and cranky. I used to watch at least 10 hours of television a day, which translates to roughly 70 hours a week...more than a normal week's worth of work.

Was this, do you think, excessive? Was I really an addict back then? I now just watch around three hours of TV programming daily, maybe a bit more if there's a movie or news special worth watching.


The average person spends about three hours per day watching television, but that doesn't mean anything over that amount is an addiction. However from what you described , you definitely are an addict. You have limited your usage now, but your past history makes you a television addict, and once and addict always an addict. If you cannot concentrate or getting cranky without having your television on, then those are sure fire signs that you have an addiction problem. Looks like you have nipped it in the bud though so congrats on that.
Re: Greys Anatomy
2/6/2008 6:58:41 AM leighdu
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NewsFreak01 wrote
I'm addicted to Greys Anatomy. I love that show. and lately there hasn't been any new episodes (except for one) because of the writers strike and its driving me crazy! I want to know whats going to happen next!!! is this bothering anyone else???


Not just Grey's Anatomy, but I think a lot of the shows not being on are bothering people a great deal. The writing strike won't last forever. Luckily it has not affected me but it is driving many of my friends up the wall.
Re: Smokers: Are/Were You Partial to One Brand of Cigarette?
2/6/2008 7:49:05 PM leighdu
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BettyBlue wrote
This question is for current or former smokers, and it assumes that we accept that smoking is addictive. This is a bit of a devil-is-in-the-details one....

When you smoke/smoked, are/were you very choosy about the brand? Is/Was there something about it that makes/made it "your" brand?


I started off with Marlboro Lights and just stuck with it. Seemed to be what everyone I knew was smoking and back then we would all share so it was the easiest thing. Then it just got to where none of the other brands tasted even close to as good as M Lights. Of course if I were out of cigs I would not turn down another brand if that was all that was around.
Re: Prejudice
2/6/2008 7:54:00 PM leighdu
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princess2008 wrote
Just like everyone else has said really, if people are choosing to eat and eat and not care about their health and become overweight then maybe they are ignorant to their own health. I agree that overweight people often get ridiculed and its not fair but if they dont want to be overweight then there is plenty of help out there for them. Just like another poster said theres only a small percentage that have medical conditions contributing to their size and many just cant control their cravings for food, for those that are suffering with addictions its different but we are in 2007 where lots of people have access to help.


Yes, I agree. It is very simple for overweight to take the easy way out by blaming it on a medical/glandular problem but AT4101 was indeed correct when pointing out that only a very small % are actually affected by this. The majority of obese people are this way because they don't eat well, don't exercise, and and eat far too much.

If you have an addiction with food, there is help all over the place and thousands of people that have been in your shoes. Get help not only so people will back off with the "fat" jokes, but also to potentially save your life!
Re: Fast Food prices are on the rise but people are still buying
2/6/2008 7:57:36 PM leighdu
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at4101 wrote
I'm normally not a fast food eater for obvious reasons. But the other day I was in a rush, had not eaten a thing, so I swung by KFC to get a chicken meal. I thought at least I would get green beans and corn instead of greasy fries. I was shocked to see that one 2 peice chicken meal came out to a whopping $8.50. As I looked at the receipt I saw that they charged me and extra 1.60 for a drink. Apparantly they only offer combo prices now on certain items. Anyways, I remember back when meals were like 3.99 for everything. But what's even more shocking is that daily I see cars backed up in the drive-thru. I really feel people are addicted to fast food. You could easily get a healthy meal for the same price at a place where the food isn't flopped into grease and fried.


Count me in as one the people that have completely stopped going to any fast food establishment. I was never a big fast food eater as is, but sometimes I would crave an occasional combo or fries or something junky about once a month. Last time I had a craving I decided to grab a burger from Mcdonalds until I found out that they wanted to charge me almost $5 for a small greasy fat filled burger. Forget it. I don't crave it THAT much and I will never pay that price for such shoddy food.
Re: Using Ex lax
2/6/2008 8:06:45 PM leighdu
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Quenlin wrote
Yup, and it's just disgusting, those who practice it disgust me, and the whole concept disgusts me as well. Why people even do this is beyond me, all it does it destroy your body, and causes loss of water and nutrients, resulting in you being a dehydrated, malnutritioned, overweight, pile of flesh and bones.


Yeah I don't get it either. I thought purging was pretty bad, but this Ex Lax thing, ugh, it's purging on a whole new level and much more nasty.
Re: skinny is not nice
2/6/2008 8:09:25 PM leighdu
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princess2008 wrote
No its not always the best way to go and as a child I suffered with eating disorders, I would put my fingers down my throat straight after my dinner just to look skinny, even though I wasnt even a size 6! now I am a size 10 and feel a lot better mentally and physically. My partner is always telling me to put a little more weight on and that is what I am trying to do as I also look withdrawn and shattered when I lose weight.


Aww, so sorry you went through this as a child. So much pressure is put on children to look a certain way and it makes me sick. I worry about this with my daughter daily (even though she is barely 6 years old). I am glad you are not purging anymore and feeling better .
Re: Kids huffing Gas
2/6/2008 8:12:32 PM leighdu
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normirvin wrote
I never heard of this. so they just suck up the smell from the exauhst? or the actual gas?? I like the smell of gas, some people think its wierd, but i wouldnt sit there and sniff it all day.


I'm pretty sure that what they do is huff the fumes from the exhaust pipe deep into their lungs without actually huffing in the gas. It's some pretty gross stuff if you ask me.
Re: Jacking up prices. Helping to curb addiction, or taking advantage?
2/6/2008 8:14:58 PM leighdu
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Aries wrote
I wondered about this last night, do companies like cigarette companies increase the prices to discourage people with addictions from buying it, or are they doing it to rake in more money?

I think it's the latter, if something is in high demand, it will sell, no matter what the price.


They jack it up to make more money of course. If they were so interested in people's health they would have gotten rid of their smutty tobacco companies years ago when they found out that they were killing people.
Re: Can someone get addicted to PC games?
2/6/2008 8:17:12 PM leighdu
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Fardreamer wrote
Hi.

I used to be a big-time computer game fan and I still like playing a few games, but at my age and with adult responsibilities, I hardly ever play any unless I have spare time.....

Because PC games aren't necessarily Internet-related, I will ask my question here: Can there be game players that love a game so much that they will neglect chores, jobs, family, and friends to play it? What type of games are usually prone for addiction? Does anyone here know a PC game addict?


I don't see why not. Millions of people are addicted to video games, and pc games are no different really. As to which games would be the most addictive, I am not too sure. That's a good question though and I would love to know the answer to that.
Re: Fast Food prices are on the rise but people are still buying
2/10/2008 7:17:17 PM leighdu
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Fardreamer wrote
at4101 wrote
Latifa wrote
Yep the prices will increase and it will put off a few of us but for others it will definitely not do anything, I love fast food and only over the last year have changed my eating habits but would always go to McDonalds on my lunch break as it used to be the cheapest thing around to buy and the quickest.



I remember a time when a Quarter Pounder combo meal was 2.99. I would suck those things down and not gain a pound back in the day. Now they are almost 5.00 per combo and I don't dare touch them.


$2.99? Heck, I remember when a Quarter Pounder with fries and a drink was $1.99.

Problem is, the recession we are now in is going to usher in a wave of rising prices, starting with fossil fuels and gasoline and continuing up the chain all the way to food. So if anyone's a fast food addict, don't be surprised if prices go up even farther.


I feel bad for the fast food addicts. It is like smoking: the prices keep going up but people are so hooked that they just keep on paying.
Re: Rice addiction?
2/10/2008 7:22:10 PM leighdu
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surfboy wrote
yeah i do agree because in some country rice is there staple food and they live consuming rice everyday and they need that. I don't think it is an addiction it is mainly a cultural tradition because some country they use bread as main source of carbs.


I agree. I don't think it is an addiction as much as something that is part of your culture. My friends family is Japanese and rice is used daily in their home with every meal.
Re: Smoking Promises
2/11/2008 7:07:45 PM leighdu
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LoCa wrote
Do you consider breaking a promise to your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend a huge commitment. I can see how absolutely hard it is to quit, it's a lifestyle. But I can't tell when I'm being unreasonable because I'm not a smoker. Do I have a right to get mad if a promise to me is broken?


Addicts are the biggest promise makers, but they are also the biggest promise breakers. Most don't break promises intentionally to hurt others. It is just extremely difficult to break free from smoking.
Re: Writers' Strike is a cure for TV addiction!
2/11/2008 8:15:37 PM leighdu
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Fardreamer wrote
Leighdu wrote
Fardreamer wrote
Rocky wrote
I dont think the writers strike will have much of an impact. Once they
start writing agian, the addicts will go right back to watching the
shows. It may give them a break, but if your a TV addict I'm sure
you'll watch anything else not just the one show your waiting for. I
always set aside my sunday nights at 9 to watch desperate housewives,
but when it doesn't come on I still stay watching TV but just watch
something else.


Maybe it also depends on how deep the TV addiction runs. There is, I think, a real distinction between fans of specific shows that they will miss if they don't air but can literally live without, and addicts that can't function without having the TV on no matter what programs are on, so long as there's something on the television screen.


I think that an addict is an addict. Yeah, they won't be able to watch their favorite shows, but most people addicted to televsion will always find something to watch. Most use television as a way to escape reality and lose themselves in another world, so if their favorite shows are not on, I am willing to bet there is much more out there they will watch. You have to remember also that with cable, there is a plethora of things to be found on t.v.
Thank goodness, then, that I'm one of those TV watchers that can get by on just watching the news or a couple of shows a day, but not one who would just watch anything for the sake of watching.

Of course, I'm disappointed that this season of 24 will not be on, but that's the way the cookie crumbles!


Well that is great that you don't have a television addiction Fardreamer, but there are many out there that do, and that is what this thread is for. Albeit many are in denial but it is definitely not a laughing matter or something for people to take lightly. An aquaintance recently divorced her husband because television was his entire life. He would even miss work just to watch tv. It's a sad addiction really, but then again all of them are.
Re: Turn it off at dinner
2/11/2008 8:19:11 PM leighdu
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Aries wrote
One thing that annoys me about my family is that none of them talk while eating dinner, because they're far too busy watching TV. Now, I'm not one to believe that "Families who watch TV at dinner will have kids who are more likely to drink" BS, but it does annoy me when a social event where everyone sits at the table, is in utter silence save for "pass the salt."


It annoys me too, and I agree that I don't think that kids are going to grow up being criminals or alcoholics because they watch tv at dinner, but it has been proven that people eat faster and swallow faster and usually consume more when watching tv while eating, so that is reason enough for me not watch tv while at dinner.
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