latifa's Posts

Re: How much sex do you have

1/26/2008 3:24:59 PM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah I have heard about all the healthy stuff too and at first it used to be about 4 times a day but oh no not anymore about 4 times a month, I supposed things get into a routine and it gets forgotten about lol.

Re: New Years

1/26/2008 3:28:08 PM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah that has been my resolution for about 3 years now and I'm bigger than the years before lol but I also made a resolution to get fitter and do more exercise as well as cutting down on smoking!

Re: Party Mom

1/26/2008 3:44:22 PM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah I agree that parents have to be responsible for their children and this parent is definitely not in that category, my parents were really strict and I used to do the same thing, I had a bestfriend whose mum was always drunk and used to get us alcohol and even cover for me when I would tell my parents I was staying at my friends house for a nice quiet evening in, but was out getting drunk. What happened was my bestfriends mum died, she got so drunk one evening and overdosed on pills. Though it would be cool to have a mum that buys alcohol and gets drunk with you, its even cooler to have parents that are protecting you and are alive.

Always picking the bad guys!

1/27/2008 1:09:00 PM latifa
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My bestfriend is literally always picking the bad guys, the guys that are on drugs or have just come out of prison and she always ends up getting hurt. Everyday her parents are telling her to find a nice man, with a stable job preferrably not a coke addict and start to settle down, she just says those types of men are boring and I want a real man thats fun! I kinda cant win with her and though she doesnt get too involved with what they are getting up to as in taking drugs but surely its bound to happen. I used to be attracted to the same type and so cant really preach to her, anyone else find that they are attracted to the bad guys?

Re: Do you drink to get wasted ?

1/27/2008 1:15:19 PM latifa
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I guess it depends on whether your getting drunk to just get wasted because its fun or you start drinking but then cant control it and get wasted - then I would say thats pretty much an alcoholic, an ex used to say he was not an alcoholic and just loved getting wasted and having fun, but actually if there was any alcohol in the house and said he just wanted one drink he would then be totally wasted as he couldnt control himself, hes now in rehab from drinking but I used to drink just to get wasted when I was younger but have grown out of it and cant think of anything worse now than waking up with the worse hangover in the world and not remembering any of the evening what a waste of money lol.

Re: Have you ever tried drugs?

1/27/2008 1:20:51 PM latifa
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Yeah I have tried drugs, I have tried weed and also tried ecstasy. I then moved onto cocaine and had a very hard time getting of it. Cocaine gave me a great feeling and I used to get such a kick out of doing it, it really is something too hard to explain unless you have tried it and can relate to the feeling. I havent touched it for over 3 years but the want to do it does come back every now and then, I never got help for it just stopped.

Re: Kind of funny..

1/27/2008 1:24:59 PM latifa
34 Posts

yeah i do agree with you, also done coke before and never really thought that the mints resemble it either, i dont know many people that pick up sweets from the floor and start eating them and definitely think it is going a bit too far.

Re: Do I?

1/31/2008 7:29:33 AM latifa
34 Posts

I would consider whether it is breaking the bank or not, it seems a lot of money to me but if you have a great job and its not affecting your money side of things then maybe its not too much. My friends spend thousands on shopping all on the credit card though!

Re: I think I used to watch too much TV

1/31/2008 7:32:14 AM latifa
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I used to always watch too much TV, literally any free time I had was spent watching TV, coming home from school and straight to the television, I could actually recite the adverts inbetween the breaks! but now I dont spend that much time wacthing TV mainly because there seems to nothing that great on anymore to watch.

Re: I think I used to watch too much TV

2/1/2008 10:37:18 AM latifa
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No I dont think its bad - I think its sad lol. But I guess for some it is their life, if they have an addiction! There is just nothing worth watching anymore its the same old, same old.

Re: How many of your friends/relatives smoke?

2/1/2008 10:40:31 AM latifa
34 Posts

Just my dad that smokes in my household but I have a lot of friends that smoke, but a lot of my family are ex-smokers and ex-smokers are the worse for moaning!

Re: in a country full of smokers

2/1/2008 10:44:28 AM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah I live in a country full of smokers to the point where the bank clerks are sitting smoking a fag when dealing with you, the police are sitting at their desks smoking as well as professional lawyers, if the country is really open for smoking then it will be really hard to stop that craving, let your family know though so at least it will help a bit and yeah pop some gum in, or brush your teeth when you get that craving.

Re: When do you have your first Cigarette ?

2/1/2008 10:46:42 AM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah I used to have a ciggie when I first woke up but I dont anymore - I now have my first one in the afternoon but then I dont smoke a lot throughout the day more a social smoker when Im out in the evenings with friends.

Re: My girlfriend is now addicted to alcohol

2/1/2008 10:49:48 AM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah you need to actually find out if she recognises that she has a problem before you can take action on how to help her, let her know how its affecting you all and that your worried, definitely record her and remind her of the night before and see what reaction you get.

Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic

2/1/2008 10:53:00 AM latifa
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My ex was an alcoholic and was for years going to AA meetings for help and his dad is still an alcoholic, hes telling me that hes recovered and hes not an alcoholic anymore, but when I saw him the other night he smelt of alcohol - he was really violent before and had a real addiction to alcohol that lost him his flat and nearly ended up in prison. Were never be back together but he is still a really good friend, I want to believe him but everyone is telling me once an alcholic always one. should I believe him?

Re: 24 ways to help you sleep

2/1/2008 10:56:38 AM latifa
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Great link thanks, will be taking some of these tips I can never get a good nights kip. Yeah my feet are always frozen and im now having to wear bed socks!

Re: Always picking the bad guys!

2/1/2008 11:02:02 AM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah thats sounds identical to my bestfriend and I think shes turning to them because she has her own problems but she cant see that she needs to get out fast as they are not helping her but making her worse, glad your sister found someone nice, just goes to show that the nice guys can be more fun!

Re: skinny is not nice

2/1/2008 11:07:08 AM latifa
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Whenever I lose some weight people always tell me I look awful and really withdrawn, there are lots of men out there that prefer a bigger looking woman to a stick thin one - I think its great when you see a celebrity looking bigger, she shouldnt be getting the abuse for it but an applaud, my younger sister is always looking at stick thin celebrities and wishing to be like them!

Re: is it harder?

2/3/2008 5:07:09 PM latifa
34 Posts

I think it would be harder for men but thats only talking from experience and often found that men thought they could deal with it in their own way and didnt need help, women are more emotional and can talk more freely about things where as men tend to bottle everything up inside more and find it harder to talk about what drove them to the addiction etc, so I think its harder for men.

Re: Censoring death from kids. Uh... excuse me?

2/3/2008 5:10:51 PM latifa
34 Posts

Yeah kids need to know about death, death is reality and its better to have them prepared for it than to be knocked senseless and confused when they get to experience it. As long as you explain it in the correct way to get them to understand as opposed to torturing their poor little minds then fine.

Re: is moms death affecting dads alcohol

2/3/2008 5:14:04 PM latifa
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Yeah I reckon so, hes found himself at a point again where he has no control, he couldnt control the death of your mother and naturally he will be extremely emotional, confused and looking for something to block that pain, and alcohol can do that, though for a short time. Try and discuss it with him, dont even mention the alcohol at first but try and get him to open up, he is still grieving, when you can get him to be open and express himself then talk to him about the alcohol.

How do you react to hearing bad news?

2/3/2008 5:16:00 PM latifa
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How do you react when you hear bad news that someone has died or are suffering from a severe illness. My friend has had news that her mother has cancer and she just can not cry, shes hit the bottle and I know this is her way of coping with the news. I am terrible when hearing bad news, I seem to just laugh mainly from shock, I know everyone reacts differently some break down and cry, some show no emotion - what is yours?

Re: i played with cocaine

2/3/2008 5:20:33 PM latifa
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Yeah good on you, it sounds similar to my experience with cocaine it was the fact that I actually enjoyed doing it rather than being addicted, I did get to the stage of addiction but I managed to beat it before it beat me. Well done to you and its good to hear your story.

Being a better person

2/3/2008 5:27:00 PM latifa
34 Posts

There are lots of success stories on here of people quitting and how they did it and made their lives better which is really motivating for people on here that need support and help. I was once a cocaine addict though I say addict but I managed to beat it before it got a major control over my life. I was bought into the world of cocaine by an ex boyfriend and loved doing it, only when it started to mess me up a little and started to lose sight of things - as in my parents started to disown me rather than support me, I was spending every last bit of money I had to get the next lot in did I realise I had to change. It wasnt easy but then no one said it ever would be, I got through and though I dabbled a little bit during the process I have been clean for 3 years.

But one thing to remember, those addicts that clean themselves up and turn their lives around for the better, they are a better person now than before they became an addict because they saw the damage and turned everything around - its the experiences we have that create us to be something else.

Re: Mom always knows...

2/3/2008 5:38:37 PM latifa
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Yeah I think parents know and moms have a natural ability to sense what their children are up to, my mom always knew when my brother was dabbling or smoking weed even though he didnt live at home, we under estimate our parents knowledge. Your mom carried you for 9 months and educated you I think she can probably sense when something is changing, even from the look in your eyes or if smoking weed from the smell - being more distant etc.

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