Re: Does anyone date persons from adult finder websites?
1/15/2008 10:46:10 AM
alexdg1
45 Posts
I've registered at a few dating sites but never in the Premium (paid membership) areas of them (Adult Friend Finder being the only one I can think of at the moment), so I get a lot of e-mails from women supposedly in my area but (a) I can't reply to them or (b) verify if they really resemble their photos or are, indeed, even women.
The upshot is that I would date someone from such a site, even though there are so many factors involved in doing so. First and foremost, I'd like for whoever I'm dating to be single, in her 30s or early 40s, and in somewhat good shape. I've already been - sadly - involved with one married woman and two out-of-shape ones, and while I'm not prejudiced against "big girls," I really don't think that's my preferred type to date forever.
Honesty, of course, is also a big "must." I don't want to date a girl who copy/pastes nude or scantily clad photos of models or minor porn stars I'd not recognize and passes them off as her photos, then ends up looking like Frau Blucher from Young Frankenstein. If they are going to post pics at all, and I don't care really if they are family friendly pics or "hot" ones, I want them to be really of them. I'd do the same in return.
So, in a nutshell, I don't have any moral objections to people who date others from sites such as Match.com or even Adult Friend Finders, but I do urge everyone to play fair, be honest, and not hurt someone online.
Re: Candy Cigarettes
1/15/2008 11:00:23 AM
alexdg1
45 Posts
at4101 wrote
Does anyone remember candy cigarettes? You would blow on them and this sugary powder would come out, and then you unwrap them and chew the gum inside. Back when I was younger I never thought anything of it, but I am so glad that they were pulled from the shelves. That's just one more thing that make it seem cool for kids to smoke.
Oh, yes. I do remember candy cigarettes quite well. They came in boxes that were identical in size and color to the real thing and had a number of sweet smelling/tasting replicas of "coffin nails." I think, but I'm now not sure, that they even had the same brand names (Marlboro, Pall Mall) as actual cigarettes.
I agree with you, at4101, that these candy cigs were a clever marketing tool to get kids to think smoking was cool, and a particularly underhanded one, at that. Besides, the gum wasn't all that great, now that I look back on it.
Re: Shop too Much
1/15/2008 11:21:10 AM
alexdg1
45 Posts
at4101 wrote
Do you spend out of your budget? If you enjoy shopping and can easily afford it, then it doesn't seem , at least to me, that that is a problem. But if you have a compulsion to shop when you are feeling depressed then you may be using shopping to deal with underlying feelings. The reason that could be a problem is because you are using shopping as a means to medicate yourself and ignore your feelings.
Personally, I'm not addicted to shopping. I hate going to malls and stores unless I have to, or if I have what I like to call "discretionary" cash and want to treat myself to a new book, DVD, or even the rare game for my PC.
My sister, on the other hand....she has gone to the brink of bankruptcy because she buys things - mostly new clothes and shoes - to cheer herself up. This is not a good thing, at least not in this extreme fashion. Thank goodness she hates PCs and the Internet, because Lord knows what would happen if she discovered Amazon.com or even eBay!
Re: Cyber sex addictions
1/17/2008 6:51:22 PM
alexdg1
45 Posts
scroll wrote
I'm not a big fan of cyber sex, I mean, I do not agree on that, it is kind of sick, looking at porn is a kind of fun if controled, but cyber sex is the same as protitution for free in my opinion
I also disagree with this post. First off, while it can, as the creator of this thread points out, be problematic for many people, cybering - especially between an "in real life" couple who's married or at least committed but separated by circumstance (war or a business trip) - can be a healthy, even enjoyable way to release tension. For others, it can be a way to get to explore sexuality without actually having to travel, say, 2,000 miles across a continent to meet a sexual partner...or, conversely, if the two "cyber-partners" are honest and like each other, to pave the way for such a meeting.
Like drinking, watching porn, or eating, overdoing this is not a good thing, and of course, there are other reasons why cybering isn't a great idea for everyone. But to say that cyber sex is bad in all instances, in my opinion, is clearly not necessarily so.
Re: Denial...how does a relative cope with someone in denial?
1/28/2008 12:18:31 PM
alexdg1
45 Posts
Quenlin wrote
Penchant for paranoia and feels like she's being persecuted? Sounds like schizophrenia if she is paranoid about the silliest things, like if so-and-such is poisoning the water and all that.
No, she's not paranoid about being poisoned...not that extreme type of paranoia.
It's more like, erm, she feels that everyone is cross with her when they're not. Or that no one likes her.
Thing is, it's her more childish behavior that bothers us...but that would take some time to post about so I'll leave it at that, for now.
Re: Do I?
2/6/2008 12:52:11 PM
alexdg1
45 Posts
Nellie wrote
This forrum is interesting hehe I never thought shopping addictions were serious. My friends and parents say I have one and my aprents get pretty mad about it but I always took it as a joke. I dont think I have a problem. But I do go to the mall atleast 4 times a week, and usually always buy something if not more. I dont spend way too much though I limit myself to 100 or 200 dollars and never go over it. Do I have an addiction? honestly?
You either come from a wealthy family, have a big trust fund, or have a really high-paying job, because if my math is correct, you spend, minimum, $1600 a month at the mall alone. $100 X 4 X 4= $1600. Twice that if we take your high limit of $200 per shopping trip.
I would have to say, Nellie, that you need to try and see what happens if you don't go to the mall for, say, an entire week and see how your emotional response is. If you are upset, antsy, and constantly thinking about going shopping - except for groceries and gas - then yeah, you're an addict.
Re: Edit Option
2/8/2008 9:45:16 AM
alexdg1
45 Posts
at4101 wrote
alexdg1 wrote
Quenlin wrote From personal experience, edit buttons are more trouble than they're worth, it's too easy to offend a huge amount of people, and then edit your post to make them sound like the bad guys. I see it all the time.
Although, deleting posts would be a good feature to have. |
Yes, deleting posts WOULD be really good, especially when members (like me, for instance) accidentally double-post, like I just did in another thread!
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I have seen this happen quite a lot. I will see the same thread over and over like three times. Sometimes I don't know which one to reply to.
What bugs me is when a double-post will be made because there is a lag in the browser and I'm not sure if the post showed up, so I'll hit "update" or "submit," and to my horror, there will be two posts when one was intended,
Diet drinks and addiction: Denial?
2/11/2008 12:05:00 PM
alexdg1
45 Posts
As we all know, there is a lot of pressure - some of it valid for health reasons, some of it not - on people, particularly women, to lose weight.
Many companies, including snack food and soft drink manufacturers, make billions of dollars with diet versions of their "junk" food and sodas, promising consumers that their products are healthy and will help them lose weight.
The truth is, though, that diet sodas are really more harmful than the bottlers would have the public know. Not only do the artificial sweeteners mess up the brain by making it think it's tasting sugar when it's not, but they mess up the metabolism and, eventually, people who drink diet sodas eventually gain weight.
Thing is, we told a relative of ours who is constantly buying and drinking Diet Coke and Diet Pepsi all this, and she said, point blank: "Oh, I don't drink diet sodas anymore." Which, sadly, isn't true. She bought diet sodas as late as last week.
How can someone lie like this? Is she in denial, or what?
Re: Ebay Addicts
2/23/2008 1:04:37 PM
alexdg1
45 Posts
megan22 wrote
Ebay addiction seems to just keep growing and growing. I think there are a few factors involved. First, people like the thrill of out bidding others and the feeling of "winning", even if they ended up paying way too much. Others are addicted to buying things dirt cheap there, and even if they don't need it , they will buy and buy and buy because the price is so good.
I know a lady that used to spend most of her entire days just sitting at her pc and watching the bids on Ebay. She would do this constantly, then bid at the last minute before an auction would end. I am all for saving a bit of money, but some of these people take it to the extremes, and need to have Paypal and credit cards shut off before they E-bay away their bill money.
Good grief!
Unfortunately, I can not only see how easy it is to get addicted to eBay, especially if one has a sizeable PayPal account and goes on shopping sprees, rationalizing it away by saying it's not "real money" (though it IS) and making sure the bank account doesn't get tapped into.
I also have a friend who not only got addicted on eBay, but also became addicted to bidding on what's called "costume cards," which I believe are laminated cards with a fragment of material from a movie or TV show's character's uniform/costume/clothes. He makes way more money than I do, yet much of his income went into eBay and costume cards.
RE: Few issues with this new layout
2/27/2008 10:05:51 AM
alexdg1
45 Posts
dartz said: First off, people can't log in unless they get a new password, but I put up a thread about dealing with that.
Secondly, the subscribed threads page on the profile doesn't seem to work right.
Third, is there an option to disable the Subscribe? box from being checked automatically? I'd rather not have my inbox full of replies because I forgot to uncheck it.
Fourth, a small thing but peoples names show up in all lowercase on the thread listing.
Edit:
Fifth, avatars seem to screw up big time, I mean, look at mine!
I wonder why all the names here, i.e., Dartz, Fardreamer, BettyBlue, Leighdu, etc., got the lower case treatment? Not a big deal, in the greater scheme of things, but yeah, it looks....weird.
RE: Teachers and illicit sexual liaisons = addicts?
2/28/2008 11:21:14 AM
alexdg1
45 Posts
I, too, must admit to having had fantasies about having sex with some of my female teachers in high school. At that age, with all those hormones raging and having normal teenage-boy appetites and all that, I don't think I would have said "No" if any of them had made me an offer I couldn't refuse.
And that is the crux of the matter. According to psychologists and medical experts, teens' brains are still forming even while in high school, and although it's unfair to generalize and say "all teens are immature and therefore can't make too many rational decisions," there are so many that can't deal with the real consequences of their choices.
From a purely American-only perspective, even the common male fantasy of being seduced by a hot teacher has images that smack of some coercion or manipulative behavior on the part of the seducer. One that I read about once involved a hottie who would "do the deed" with the guy while the two were after school and the kid was in detention or being disciplined in some fashion. Clearly, while the sexual content of the fantasy is pleasant to the guy who has it, there is that scary undercurrent of being involuntarily restricted to a classroom by an authority figure.