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RE: What NOW??
5/13/2008 2:22:06 PM Mrs.Ugly
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ShockColla said: Those are really encouraging things, also remember that in the long run, drugs and alcohol aren't doing you any good.  You've quit, that's the hard part, and now it's only going to get easier. 


Not only is it going to get easier but a million times better. You really are going to learn how to enjoy your life better, and in all the right ways.
RE: Bobby Brown: The Truth, The Whle Truth and Nothing But...
5/13/2008 2:26:20 PM Mrs.Ugly
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He cant go blaming her. After he saw he doing drugs the first time that should've been his first step to leave unless she got sober. He shouldn't have sat with her and done cocaine and developed a worse addiction. I hate it when people try to put their mistakes on others. Its his dumb decision to accept it. If I was out with my friends and they were eating ice cream and fudgy chocolate cakes everynight and Im so tempted and give in always, then its my fault that I'm getting fat. Not theirs. If they want to eat it let them tis their lives. Just like if Whitney wanted to do coke, and bobby trying to stop her isn't working, then let her be but dont get involved in it and blame her.
RE: im a grandma
5/13/2008 2:34:14 PM Mrs.Ugly
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I would unexpectedly drug test them if I were you. Then if you see they are abusing drugs, thats when its time to take action and do something about it. Its okay to worry ofcourse, but all you could do when your worried with no proof is just getting really involved with their lives. Maybe if you catch them and totally scare them, threaten to kick them out (but dont really do it), ground them for a really long time. Even school for like 2 days (thats when my mom scared me the most). Do whatever it takes to stop them Also be aware of what friends they hang out with because that place a big role.
RE: Re: Speak Up and Speak Out
5/13/2008 2:36:01 PM Mrs.Ugly
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princess33 said: wow you do know a lot about these things. I never knew apple juice was sometimes someone elses urine. lol


lol cant people working in the labs detect that its apple juice? Apple juice smells like apple juice.
RE: sober celebration
5/13/2008 2:46:40 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Lauren said: lol your story is funny you gotta admit that. If it happened to someone else you'd laugh =P
I quit drinking when I was seventeen. It took getting caught by the police to stop me and I've vowed to never drink again, Its been over a year and although I've had so many chances I Haven't taken any and I know I wont ever drink again. I'm proud of myself although many of my friends think I'm pretty dumb for it.



I know exactly how you feel I quit drinking too. But I think its better, when I'm out with my friends and they're all drinking and doing crazy things and stuff its fun, but when it comes time to go home, they're trippin like crazy over getting pulled over or if their parents are going to smell it on them. Its so relaxing that I dont have to worry about all that. If I get pulled over, I'm sober and fine, and my parents cant find anything on me either because I'm sober and clean. I'm more trustworthy. Also some of my friends end up doing ridiculous things that they normally wouldn't do when they're drunk. Like one started stripping and getting into a pool, and everyone was talking so much crap about her. She would've never done this if she was sober. I'm glad I dont have to be in those positions also.
RE: Videos
5/13/2008 2:48:23 PM Mrs.Ugly
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There are videos on this site that you could watch.

http://addictedtube.addicted.com/
RE: Family Love
5/13/2008 2:51:11 PM Mrs.Ugly
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ShockColla said: The first one is really important to me too.  When approaching someone,  your tone is important, even if you're trying to be nice, your attitude determines how you really feel inside.  My mom hates it when I come home from work and I'm in a bad mood.  She'll jump on top of me and tickle me until I give her a smile and tell her what's wrong. 


I always get yelled at for my tone, but sometimes I'm really not being mean or grumpy. Itll just be frustration because of my siblings or something little and I dont mean to be rude. But my parents always think I'm being rude, I'm really not though.
RE: Re: nicole
5/13/2008 2:55:10 PM Mrs.Ugly
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There are many stories of recovery just on these forrums than celebrities on the news. Maybe these closed minded people just need to do a little bit of research and realise how terribly wrong they are. Addiction can be beaten, its a tough fight but can be won and is the best battle to win.
RE: Career Help in recovery
5/13/2008 3:53:57 PM Mrs.Ugly
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whatnowgirl said:

Thank you so much for your response.  I have a sponsor, I'm on the 9th step which is scary.  I only have like 3 ammends to do in person, but when in the world is the right time to do that.  This weekend would've been ok- but I didn't want to put a cloud over it if my parents got weirded out.  They are in the program so I am pretty sure they realize that I am working on living amends by spending time with them, etc.  But the in person I was worried about it.  How do you go about talking to a counselor on here? 


I do have help with a therapist, things like that, but the meeting thing makes me so uncomfortable.  It's crazy I was fine with it at first, happy to be there, now I hate it.  I don't know what happened?  Has this ever happened to you?



Go on the home page and you'll see the pictures of the online professionals, just click on the one you want to talk to. Ask them questions, and if you want to talk to them more I'm pretty sure that you can ask for more contact information, like a phone number or something. You can get a lot of help from them. 3 more steps! pull through and conquer this!!!

RE: xanax
10/3/2008 4:00:07 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Its not really a buzz it is a melting sort of feeling. I would feel like I had just melted and blended in with the air around me. I don't know how else to describe it. It was instant-calm and no feeling whatsoever. Of course, when the Xanax wears off and you feel again, you are anything but calm, your senses go into overdrive and you develop superhero level abilities to for example, hearing. Everything is amplified from sound to light and it is very unpleasant.
RE: Re: addication to internet
10/14/2008 2:02:50 PM Mrs.Ugly
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The internet is an amazing thing with so many places to visit. Its very beneficial to us and helps us out in various ways while also entertaining us. Anyone can spend hours on the internet and watch time fly by but we all need to make sure we dont keep that a habit. Too much of anything is bad. Limit your internet time to only a few hours a week, maybe even one a day. Dont let your self get caught up in  an addiciton.
RE: Vicodin
10/14/2008 2:03:30 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Is Vicodin and Lortab the same thing?
high school sweethearts
10/14/2008 2:10:40 PM Mrs.Ugly
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I know of various people who are still in love with their high school sweethearts. And even years and years after high school and when the person has already moved on they still get great memories when thinking of their high school sweethearts and many would even go back in time and stay together if they could. This got me thinking but do you think a person ever trully gets over a high school sweetheart?
RE: Natalie Cole's Story
10/14/2008 2:14:22 PM Mrs.Ugly
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My uncles ex-wife was addicted to speed. He lives four hours away and never really knew about her addiction that lasted a year and everyday of the year. One day he told her that they were going to come to our town and visit us and she went ballistic! She didn't want to leave town she was going crazy on her knees begging him to not make her go. Thats when he realized that shes addicted. She admitted two days later that she was addicted to speed. She was scared to leave town because she was scared she wouldn't have her fix. I think when Natalie didn't leave the burning building thats probably what was going through her mind also.
RE: Absinthe
10/14/2008 2:17:49 PM Mrs.Ugly
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I was researching this online, absinthe is legal. Theres a site that explains it all and how it being illegal isn't true. I guess you cant believe everything you read on the internet but its saying a bunch of bars even sell it. You think they're bluffing?
RE: Home Detoxing An Alcoholic Friend
10/14/2008 2:21:20 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Alessandra's right. A recovered persons life will never be the same. They wont be able to do many of the things they used to do just so they dont relapse. And the thought of relapsing is always on mind. People need to be really careful after and make very smart decisions, one sip could lead them back to where they started.
RE: Oprah Special on Cheating Spouses
10/14/2008 2:24:46 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Sometimes people need to go out and see for themselves that they're not going to love anyone else, and if they did that someone else wont love them back. Some people need to go through that to realize how much they're blessed with their essential partner.
RE: Living With a Sex Addict??
10/14/2008 2:26:53 PM Mrs.Ugly
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I think in order for a sex addict to have sex again they should go a long period without it. Like maybe a year. And when they do have sex, they should make sure its with someone they love.
RE: My daughter
10/14/2008 2:34:31 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Whenever you think of an addict you think about how badly they're messing up their lives and you feel sorry for them. I know for me I never once thought about how the parents may feel. My mother blames her self for every little thing I do wrong, I know if I were ever an addict she would also blame herself and she would spend the whole time just thinking of things that she could've done to prevent it when its not her fault at all. I feel really bad for that mother and I hope her daughter makes her proud someday.
RE: The Bottle
10/14/2008 2:42:21 PM Mrs.Ugly
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I think its important to have friends supporting you throughout your recovery and after. If the author of this poem had someone there to snatch that bottle away he would've been fine and not relapsed. But it is a very good poem and it makes you feel how the person is feeling and whats crossing his mind. Its very well written.
RE: Partner Who Gambles
10/14/2008 3:09:34 PM Mrs.Ugly
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When it comes to spending the rest of your life with someone you kind of have to be selfish and think about whats best for you. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Are there too many problems to fix for you to work out? Put yourself first and dont think about how he would cope without you or how he would feel without you. If your going more towards a no answer then I would step out of this relationship as soon as possible so you dont get more attached and neither does he. If you do then work on his flaws. If he has a gambling problem tell him he needs to STOP! not stop, but STOP! Like never touch another card or machine again. Its not going to lead him to wealth its going to make him broke. If he says hes doing it for fun tell him he can play with monopoly money instead. If he has a drug addiction this needs to STOP also. And you cant be lenient about any of these things. Your not doing something small you'd be spending the rest of your life with him and taking a vow to stick with him through everything, he will be the father of your child and in your life forever. It's not a small decision so you have to be completely sure all these problems are gone.
another gambler story
10/14/2008 3:10:26 PM Mrs.Ugly
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A former county water resource engineering manager stole more than $2 million from government funds to feed his gambling addiction. He set up two dummy companies and produced bogus paperwork stating there were agreements to sell well capacity rights to the county that never existed. Because he had authority he would approve the checks to these companies as long as they were under $25,000 and deposit them into the accounts of the phony companies. He then transferred the money into his own account.
Thanks to him the counties loans for public works projects have higher interest rates.  Gambling addiction can lead even the most caring people to be the most selfish.
RE: My Alcoholic Dad :(
10/14/2008 3:17:13 PM Mrs.Ugly
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I definitely dont think babysitting is the right position for him. I think an intervention is needed. I know this is probably extremely difficult to do but if you want to save your dads life and make sure he gets to enjoy his grandkids in a healthy atmosphere then an intervention is the best. If he comes out sober he will most definitely thank you for it. And its so much better than watch him waste his life away with a bottle.
RE: Different Nationalities
10/14/2008 3:22:01 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Usually parents from different nationalities are more financially involved in their childs life also. I've noticed this a lot, so even when the child grows up their parents still play a big role in their lives. I'm 19 and I know if I did anything wrong even if its tiny my parents would still punish me just as they would when I was 13. But there's nothing I can do, they're my parents, they're looking out for me and although I respect them completely I do think some of their rules are ridiculous but I still have to accept it.
RE: Prohibition
10/14/2008 3:31:00 PM Mrs.Ugly
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Prohibition was a failure. No body stopped drinking people would just drink illegally. Sounds a bit familiar though right? Underage drinkers will never stop drinking, they'll just continue drinking and breaking the law. Same with drug users. Just because drugs are against the law doesn't mean it will stop users, users will continue to break the law and abuse drugs.
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