RE: Pro Anorexia II
4/9/2008 9:39:14 AM
BELLA
28 Posts
I think the youtube videos are the worst, there are hundreds of videos that are encouraging to these anorexic/bulimics. I understand many people view hip bones and collar bones sticking out as beautiful, I understand that but to strive to be at that level at an unhealthy, unreasonable level is sickening. These sites and videos don't talk about the effects of these diseases, they regard it as a lifestyle but it's not. It's a mental disease and they don't realize it.
They talk about how miserable they feel after eating two spoon fulls of peanut butter. Then someone says oh, don't worry, I've ate a whole jaw before. Then someone says It's okay, just purge it out.. but don't use a Qtip, you could swallow it, use a toothbrush instead. Then, you could swallow a toothbrush too so stick a string on it... it's sickening!
Drawing the Line Early
4/21/2008 11:54:33 AM
BELLA
28 Posts
When dealing with someone who is or has been involved with drugs, it's important to draw the line where you stand. I've been in two serious relationships and unfortunately they both went sour because I didn't let them know early on that deep down I wasn't comfortable partying and doing drugs together. I've realized that when you're in a relationship, you're supposed to make each other better and be supportive and act like a best friend. You'd feel horrible about letting your best friend down, right? So why would you do the same to your boyfriend/girlfriend? If you let them get drunk once, they'll do it again and again. And nothing ruins an attraction/connection between two people than drugs/alcohol because they lead to negative behavior and takes everything special out of the relationship.
Now that I know this, I've had a lot of success in dating because I've learned to let them know what my standards are. I told my current boyfriend, "Hey, I'm not doing that drug dance with you. I'm drawing the line in the sand right here," and I was absolutely clear about it. And it actually made him care. Of course he's heard it from his friends and business associates, but when I clearly explained to him that I would not budge or tolerate it, he actually cared.
RE: My Alcoholic Dad :(
4/28/2008 4:41:55 PM
BELLA
28 Posts
I know exactly how you feel. My dad is an alcoholic, any occasion is an occasion to drink, sometimes he's drunk every time I see him, then a few days later he has his drinking under control (which means only 1-3 beers per day) but he is always drinking regardless. I feel like it's taken away parts of my life that I can never have back. I am only 18 but I've often thought about whether or not I can trust him watching my kids. My mom and him are divorced, he lives alone in his apartment, and I know he gets bored and lonely, but he should've known how things were going to be when he saw that my mom was seriously leaving him. But she stood by him for 18 years and couldn't take it anymore. He was really drunk yesterday, and even though I get irritated around him, sometimes I want to cry because I love him so so so much. I've talked to him about getting treatment, and he's been to AA before, but it doesn't work for him. He drinks because he drinks and he wishes that he never started and that he could just stop but he just can't. Believe me, I've begged and pleaded with him and cried myself to sleep in his arms but I'm in the same position, there's not much more I can do than keep being his wonderful, perfect daughter and enjoy the time that I still have with my dad whom I love so dearly.