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Do men talk about it

Do men talk about it
8/2/2007 10:02:00 PM attagirl
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I would like to know if men talk about their addictions or do they prefer to stay quiet and no want to talk too much. I know that some men already have a problem with lack of communication. Just wanted to know it that would be worse in recovery.
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8/4/2007 9:34:37 PM vtabletop
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It depends on the nature of their addiction.Generally speaking, men are less expressive when it comes to emotions ,but an addiciton is different.Usually,they will discuss it with their close friends .If they have an understanding partner ,then they might even talk about it with her unless it's something extremely personal.In that case ,they would prefer seeking a counsellors assistance.
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8/7/2007 8:16:50 PM ceprateek
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It depends on the company and whom are you with but its always bad to have a bad habbit :p
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8/30/2007 4:46:20 PM simonsays
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Yes, I would have to say they are more likely to discuss it with close friends then they would be with their wife or girlfriend. For men it is hard to express what they mean or how they feel unless they are with others who think the same way they do.
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10/9/2007 1:51:50 AM jfarley
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Most men that have an addiction and want it to stop, really do want to talk about it, but are to scared to. Its like a man wouldnt cry cause it makes him less many, this isnt true but its how men think.

Jamie
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11/8/2007 10:35:05 PM surfville
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That depends on most individual, some are very secretive to there addictions and personal life whule other are open in those topics, just like the opposite sex thing are not fixed. they differ form each one.
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11/26/2007 3:09:28 PM gilaura
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its hard for anyone to talk about it though. so does it make it harder for men?
thats a good question
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11/27/2007 1:02:26 PM rick
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It depends on the man I think, if they have a great friend, I'm sure they'll talk about it, but I think it would be harder for a man to look for a psychologist, as most of them would be skeptical about it!
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3/21/2008 9:46:12 AM tonys76
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I think now adays most men will talk about it, more to those closer to them than just anybody, but that they do try and seek help. The problem for some come in when one of their closer friends say keep it to themselves, which doesn't help when someone is asking you for help.

Had that happen to a friend of mine and now he is just not talking about his addictions. I hope to get him to talk more about them again so he can start recovering.
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3/24/2008 1:51:44 PM MoreThanThat
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I think that this is a complicated question. It depends on so many things like the person, the addiction, the person you are telling and your experiences. If someone doesn't have that bad of an addiction it might be easier to come forward with, but the reverse can be the same as well. I however, like talking about things I have experienced, hoping to help other people.

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3/26/2008 8:17:33 AM MJohnson
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I don't mind talking about my addiction, it actually helps a lot to be open about it.  I share it with my girlfriend, who is also in recovery.  But because of that, it's a healthy relationship.  My dad on the other hand will never talk about his addiction to alcohol, hardly ever.  This I don't understand because in his case, it seems like he is totally unwilling to quit because he's not expressing how he feels about it.  And it's really hard on my mom also.
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6/30/2008 3:57:13 PM ryan
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I think a good example of this is Steven Tyler coming out about his addiction to pain killers. He does not want to go back down that road so he is getting himself help, which was on his terms. This is just an example of someone who is willing to talk about it. I think others think they can handle the situation or whatever so they hide it and act like they can beat the addiction on their own.
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7/18/2008 9:36:45 AM Mikah
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I think it depends on how bad they want to quit.  Because when something is really bothering me, I know that once I talk about it, the problem seems to get smaller and smaller.  Addiction is something that cannot be fixed if ignored, it will never just go away on its own.  Talking about it can help you get to the root of the problem.
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9/11/2008 9:14:15 AM bebe24
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I think it depends on the type of person. Some guys will bottle up and then when they've had enough they'll tell a person, some guys talk freely about their problems but only to one person or so. Most guys I know tell everything all their problems to their girlfriends. they can trust her and they dont care about theway they look infront of her, she wont think of them any different.
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