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Materialistic, is it a curse?

Materialistic, is it a curse?
4/23/2007 4:40:00 PM stevie$$
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Hey Wats up~

Well, I'm not exactly addicted to anyTHING, but I think I have a problem with the way I live. I have a habit of judging other people before I even meet them. I guess you could say I'm materialistic with everything, I drive a nice car and if I didn't have a cool car with rims n shit I probably wouldn't feel confident. I have trouble with women too, I only like blondes that dress bomb and they end up being trashy. How can I chnage the way i think? I'm scared I'll never find the right girl because I'm lookin in all the wrong places. Am I shallow for bein like this?
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5/7/2007 8:44:12 PM golfjumper
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Hey Stevie - I totally know what you mean! I don't know how old you are, but when I was younger (college days) - I was totally like that. I think a lot of the problem is fixed with age. If it isn't, you might want to look at who you are around (your friends, where you work, etc). And if you have any porno magazines - you should get rid of them.

When you see or meet someone for the first time, think about their life and what they could be going through. Maybe someone just realized they were dying of cancer or maybe another one just lost their spouse or mother or father... See what happens when you look at the opposite side people normally look and and let us know how it goes!!

-GJ
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5/11/2007 5:13:06 PM stevie$$
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Hey thanks man! Ya i'm almost done with school, just tryin to get my life set ya know how that goes...I've been working on myself, trying to be less shallow and more fun to be around I think it takes time to realize you're not gonna be young forever, I want to be happy when I'm older and i dont' want to marry someone that's just like me, I would surely divorce them. Thanks for the advice tho...got any tips on where to find a classy girl
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5/15/2007 12:03:10 AM caliguy
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I agree. That kind of stuff usually fades with age. One thing you could try though, is spend some time talking with these girls before you make any decisions of whether or not you want a relationship with them. In my experience, I have seen beautiful women become less attractive after talking to them and average women become georgous after talking with them. It sound corny and cliche, but beauty really is on the inside. Good luck Stevie. She's out there. You just need to know where to look.

C
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5/16/2007 5:00:19 PM wisegurl88
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maybe this isn't really my place to be saying anything because im a girl but maybe your looking for girls in all the wrong places, like clubs and parties and stuff. try finding one whos not such a party animal because she'll be the one whos less trashy and more loyal to you.
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5/17/2007 3:43:21 PM young01sta
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Totally think maybe you should try understanding yourself before your potential partners even understand themselves. You should just try being an all around good guy; good "relationship type" girls will be easier to find:)
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5/17/2007 4:21:25 PM blondestblonde
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being materialistic is a good thing though, its alot better than being cheap. if your cheap then you have no fun in life because all you worry about is not using up your money. driving a nice car and going for blondes is really good too :) just stop going for the trashy ones. i agree with wise girl dont go for a party animal. but dont go for a good girl either those wouoldn't be much fun.
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5/18/2007 4:39:09 PM mikeyikie
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your not shallow you just have expensive taste. stop hooking up with any girl and wait for the oneYOU really like.
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5/21/2007 4:50:04 PM stevie$$
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Aight its been workin so far i'm tryin to be more open n shit girls like that right? I met this one girl, she's like me kinda. She cute, but she ballin too..She turns 18 tomorro!
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5/25/2007 1:47:31 PM cynru_am_byth
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Theres a difference between been materialistic and having standards and it just sounds to me as if you have certain standards. The blinkered eyes become un-blinkered as you get older and you have been dumped a few times. Then you head for the ford cortina with a chubby girlfriend any colour hair will do as long as she makes you laugh........lol
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5/29/2007 11:30:17 AM attagirl
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I think that you need to learn to be a little more open minded. What makes you judge a person when you first see them. You might be missing out on the best people in the world. You have no clue what they have or who they are and opening your mind to talking before passing judgment is the key. I do not know if you are a church going person or what you believe in. But it might be a spiritual thing you need to learn about yourself to help you grow as a person.
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5/31/2007 12:51:02 PM hotwriter
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IT is a curse, and if you continue to base your beliefs off of it, you will be alone for the rest of your life. The thing you have to tell yourself is that you are born with nothing and you die with nothing as well.
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5/31/2007 4:54:15 PM phaedrus
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It certainly can be.

To quote Tyler Durden (Fight Club)
"The things you own end up owning
you"

If they the aquiring of stuff gets out of control it can lead to the same kind of emotional rush that other adicts recieve when they have a hit.
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6/14/2007 10:53:11 AM simonsays
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That quote is so true. That is why it is very important to have what you need and dream about what you want, because if you have the means to get everything you want, then whats left to dream about. The comment about being alone for the rest of your life is also very true. So be open minded and enjoy life people are people, and they are not the same for a reason.
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3/27/2008 12:10:57 PM dannyboy
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try meeting a girl at church. Or school. Dont meet girls at parties those are always going to be party girls. Good luck :)
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3/28/2008 10:43:24 AM Jankowski
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It's possible to meet girls that are really super pretty, dress great, and have great personalities but aren't materialistic.  And they end up being the keepers.  I mean really, how much fun are couples that are totally materialistic?  They just seem fake. 
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5/13/2008 9:53:01 AM Cameraman32
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I dont think your considered materialistic. You just have good taste and high standards. You seem picky too. I like expensive things, I wont buy anything that looks cheap and if I do I never use it. Even if you cant tell, I can still feel it. Your just picky about your girls, they have to look a certain way, thats pickiness. You'll find one thats right for you. You could even find one that isn't exactly the way you want her to look but you could start loving her more than you could ever imagine and look behind the factors about her that u didn't like before.
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