How long should we mourn a loved one, before it's time to move on? Queen Victoria went into mourning for the rest of her life when her husband died, which is very romantic, but must have driven everyone else crazy. When is it time to move on?

Each person mourns in their own time and ways. You will generally know when it is time. But for some they tend to let it last way beyond. If it is interfering with your life it is time to move on. People think that if they do not mourn a certain amount of time that it means they did not love that person, this is not correct. That person you are mourning for would want you to move on.

I second what Simon said.Every person needs his /her own time to come out of the mourning.It's a subjective matter and there can be no definite time limit within which we can expect someone to get over the loss.Personally, if my grief starts hurting people Icare for ,then I'd know it's time for me to learn to accept what can't be changed and move on.

you cant place a timeframe on grief i have alot of expierence in this field and it really depends on how traumatic the event of the death was to you...there is no possible way for you to measure this in time whatsoever because if this grief was bc of someone very near and dear to you it will hurt for the rest of your life trust me... sometimes the best we can do is cope with the fact that they are gone but not to mourn their death but to celebrate their lives and the effect and memories that you have together if the trauma of it is at its extreme all i can really say is that throughout the grief process the only thing is that eventually over time the hurt will slowly dissipate because life continues for you whether you want it to or not and things happen the grief process is fairly slow and extremely painful just prepare yourself to take as much time as needed

It would vary form each indidual some people will never fully move on especially when they do love that person dearly. But some will move on faster than someone it just really depends in your self. acceptance should take place you you could move on.

There isnt aa real time frame that enables one to get over a huge loss in there lives. You must remember the person for who they were and simply enjoy all the memories that you shared with them.

I think that each person moves on at different times. Some may move on by the next month and its something sad to look back upon but theyre fine by then. Annd some like Queen Victoria go into mourning for the rest of their life. I think if my wife died I would mourn for years and years!!

I've had some friends that were soo torn up like when their grandmother died, but then I know some poeple that got over the death of a parent from when they were very young. Don't they have grieving steps to help you through the death of a loved one?

As long as it takes, nobody should be expected to mourn someone for any length of time. You mourn them when you want, as long as you want. Besides, let me make a quote from Elfen Lied

"Wherever Kanae is, I don't think she'd be happy to see you like this. Her memory ought to be worth more to you than just bitterness."

In other words, if you constantly grieve them, they'll just be upset in the afterlife.