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shes already gone

5/1/2007 9:02:00 AM aqua801
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my grandma has alzheimers and parkinsons and we noticed it a couple years ago and its just gotten worse and worse. she doesnt live in the same city as me though so i never get to see her. i lost a grandparent when i was like 9, but i dont really remember the hurt and sadness from it. im scared to lose her and i dont want to regret not spending time with her but im going to school and working so its kinda tough. if anyone has lost a close family member i would love to hear any advice and coping methods. thanks.

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5/1/2007 4:45:45 PM maxine
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I worked with an Alztheimers patient for 6 years.. there are stages of this disease. and certain things that help. Keeping pictures of people nearby..not making too much change..This is disturbing to people with Altzheimers and never, never say they don't know what they are talking about. If they say they are going to milk the cows..say fine..but just make sure all doors are locked.

With our little lady we had to put slice locks at tops of doors and even a door across the stairwell.

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5/21/2007 8:41:45 AM aqua801
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i just went to see my grandma this weekend and the whole situation caught me off guard even though i knew what was happening to her. she cant even walk and they have a nurse with her for the majority of the day. i dont even think at first she knew who we were, but she did say my sisters name, not mine. im worried for her and im really worried for my grandpa because i know he is having a hard time with this. i guess theres no easy way to lose someone, but with this disease its like she isnt even the same person anymore. its sad to see but i want to spend as much time with her.

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5/21/2007 4:56:11 PM bubblebutt07
41 Posts

this happened to my friends grandma. she died 2 weeks ago, but she had parkinsons for a long long time. my friend really misses her but she knows that she is much better off in heaven and without all the pain she was going through. and her grandma was a very social person so not being able to talk was the worst part of it. try just seeing it in ur grandmas point of you, shed be much more relaxed. know that your grandma loves you and its just the disease keeping her away from u.try visiting ehr as much as you can. and make sure you have no regrets. good luck i'll pray for you.

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7/6/2007 11:15:31 PM hazephase
317 Posts

you should be strong for you family and try and support them we all have to die time is allways running out we have to work to get out thing done in time

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8/12/2007 9:07:19 AM joseph
47 Posts

I agree that you need to make as much effort as possible to see her, beacuse there's nothing worse than regret. At the same time, don't punish yourself though, you do have other things going on in your life. Just being there is all she can do, I'm sure she recognises you deep down , and appreciates familiar faces, even if she doens't let you know it.

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8/15/2007 10:12:01 AM simonsays
252 Posts

I agree support is the key, especially for your grandfather. He in all honesty will be the one who suffers the most. All you can do is accept what will happen try to spend the time you can with them and do not have any hard feelings. My mother died from cancer and it was very hard watching her slowly die. All you can do is make sure that you love the people you are around and be there.

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3/28/2008 2:51:25 PM texastreasure
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I would try spending as much time with her as you possibly could, visit her on the weekends and make sure you call her everyday. And be prepared for her dying. Make sure she knows everything you want her to know, and keep away the things that would hurt her. Treasure the time you have left, but be prepared for it to be over. It's going to hurt but being prepared makes it so much better than a sudden death.

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5/8/2008 1:01:04 PM cowboy44
34 Posts

I would try visiting her every weekend that you dont have work. Put a picture of you and her by your bed side. When you see her tell her stories to ensure that she doesn't forget you even tho I'm sure she wont, its just times where she is just confused because thats what the disease does to you. Parkinsons is a horrible disease. But this is your grandmothers faith and you need to accept that. This is what God has written for her, dont remember her as the old lady with the horrible disease but as she was before the disease and reminiss those times with her and remind her of those times.

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7/10/2008 9:16:07 AM alikat8
21 Posts

I'm sorry to hear about your loved one, but I know how you feel. One of my relatives had the same thing and at first she would slowly forget things or say sentences that didn't make sense, but now it's like her past is haunting her and things that she did to other people she acts like they are happening to her. She thinks her husband is going to leave her and take all the money and leave her with nothing and if he leaves for even 5 minutes she starts calling people to see where he is. It's sad to see and her husband really loves her so I'm sure it's really painful for him.

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10/28/2008 3:45:18 PM Mrs.Ugly
90 Posts

Is there anyway you can bring her closer to you for a little while? My grandmother lives 4 hours away. Whenever I feel like I havent seen her for a while and I want to spend more than a weekend with her we bring her home with us and she spends a few weeks with us. That way it wont get in the way of school and work and youll be able to spend time with her. Itll mean the world to her and itll be best for you also so you dont live with any regrets. I know thats wht I would do.

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