Okay well I feel like the worst, most selfish person in the world but I had an abortion because in the end, it would've killed me inside. I lost my virginity last year, I'm 17 now, almost 18 and I found out about my baby 2 months ago. My boyfriend and I broke up last month and said that he hated me for being pregnant and I ruined his life. He already has a new girlfriend and its like I never existed. Only my best friends found out because I couldn't keep my secret in anymore, they helped me pay for the abortion. It would've ruined my life and my reputation. My parents would've literally killed me if they knew. I just feel like I cheated my child's chance to have a life, but what kind of life would it have been without a father or a good mother? I feel like a murderer

dont think of it that way allie. im pro abortion and if you did keep that baby whats the chance of it having a good life? i know this may sound heartless to some but the baby doens't even ahve a heart by then. thats why they adont allow abortions after 3 months. as for your boyfriend. screw him hes a jerk if he cant stick by your side through thicka nd thin.

Allie,

You're not a murderer - just a kid who made a mistake. People do far worse things every day. You did what you did, for reasons you felt were right at the time.

You just need to get your life back on track, learn from your mistakes and move on.

Good luck xx

I know, it's just so hard : (
I wish now that I would've had my baby, maybe I could've put it up for adoption, but then I would've totally ruined my reputation and my family would've hated me forever. Yes you're right I just have to move on i just don't know how. My first step was going on birth control but what now

I honestly do not agree with abortion, but I know I could never know what it's like to be in your shoes. I know that there are certain situations that I would probably even consider abortion, and yours definitely might be one of them. All you can do is become a stronger person and not give up on your life because of this. That would just be a waste of everything.

I don't know your parents, but if you are close to them, I would suggest you talk to them. Or try to find out their views on the situation maybe without telling them right away. It's hard to hold this kind of thing in and it might really help to have someone you know will love you no matter what to talk to.

I wish you the best.

I have very mixed feelings about abortion. As a medical professional, I feel that it is a medical procedure that the government should not regulate. I am glad that you had the choice to have a safe medical procedure done by a qualified professional in a safe setting.

As a woman with stage 4 endometriosis who was never able to get pregnant, I do not condone abortion. I would have loved to have had the opportunity to give birth or to adopt a baby.

You were in a situation with no great outcome. You made unfortunate choices with an insensitive boyfriend and clearly felt trapped. Sometimes the best choice is to do what keeps you sane.

In the future, please use birth control. It is available for free at Planned Parenthood. You do not need to be 18 to see someone at their clinics.

Please forgive yourself. Talk to someone about it -- whether its a nurse or a social worker or psychologist at school. Give yourself time to heal -- you have had a lot of physical and hormonal changes over the past several months.

Make this a chapter in your life that is closed and is over. Take what you have learned and use it in your upcoming experiences. Do your best to move on. Best of luck.

Please don't think you are a murderer. Murder and abortion are two different things. Instead of dwelling on your past, try to look ahead. But first, you've got to unload what's gripping your heart so that you won't feel guilty anymore of what you have done. If you're Catholic then you can confess to a priest. You can do so anonymously and you'll feel blessed and forgiven after you do.

You're not a murderer. I have never really thought of this as a big deal, but your words have swayed me. I think you made the right choice, you have good friends for helping you out with it, I think you have been through some rough times but the only way to feel better about it is to talk it out

Well I've been slowly recovering, for a while I just felt so helpless and my body was so weak, but I'm beginning to learn from this experience. I've vowed to not have any sexual relations until I get married, it's just not worth it to me, if someone really cares about me, they will wait. Hopefully others will learn from my experience to not give your whole heart to someone that will leave it in pieces...

I just wanted to let you know, that as long as you felt you made the right choice for you and for your body and that child as this time in your life. Then there is no reason why you should feel as though you are a murderer. You are not, and you have make the best possible choice you can for yourself at this time. I am not telling you to justify what you did with your feelings, but it sounds to me like this was a one time thing. Sometimes decisions like this are the hardest decision you will ever make in your life.

You will be fine, if you do not want to talk about it then don't. If you feel you need to talk about it, then find someone such as the friend that went with you. In any case, it is not an easy choice to make and go through with, but you will be ok.

Thank you all so much for your kind words, I need all the support I can get!

How are you doing with this now AllieMcSally.. Its been a while since you've gotten the abortion, do you feel better about it? I really hope you do, i dont think you did anything wrong.

I dont think you should feel like a murderer. alot of things happen for certain reasons and im sure you had no other choice. I was not a supporter of abortion until a close friend of mine thought she was pregnant. Only in situations like that can you be sure if you support it or not.

It hurts I know that you have to start to help some other person who has a life and make it better because , you have not allowed one to have a life , you have to keep doing this to all that have a life and are have problems that is the only way you can clear up the mess

It's been almost a year since I've had my abortion. I feel much better now. I'm assured that I made the right decision. I haven't had sex either and I still want to wait untill I'm married. But still everyday that passes by I cant help but think what my baby would've looked like, whether it was a boy or girl. what color eyes. It's personality and what their dreams would be. I imagine it everyday, and a part of me still feels guilty. But I know when I do have a baby I want to keep it all to my self, I dont want to give birth to a life and gie it up for adoption where I wont know whats going on with it. My baby would have suffered if I had it and I'm glad I  didn't put it through that. Thanks a lot everyone for your help I really appreciate it. You helped me in a time where I needed it most.

alliemcsally07 said: It's been almost a year since I've had my abortion. I feel much better now. I'm assured that I made the right decision. I haven't had sex either and I still want to wait untill I'm married. But still everyday that passes by I cant help but think what my baby would've looked like, whether it was a boy or girl. what color eyes. It's personality and what their dreams would be. I imagine it everyday, and a part of me still feels guilty. But I know when I do have a baby I want to keep it all to my self, I dont want to give birth to a life and gie it up for adoption where I wont know whats going on with it. My baby would have suffered if I had it and I'm glad I  didn't put it through that. Thanks a lot everyone for your help I really appreciate it. You helped me in a time where I needed it most.

I'm really glad you feel better about this. I honestly think you made the right decision and I would've done the same if I were in your shoes. Dont think about what if you had the baby, It wasn't your time to have one and when you do it will turn out amazing and you will be able to provide it with the life it deserves.