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Pothead son

Pothead son
2/11/2008 1:10:00 PM jazzyallie
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One of my best friends has a brother that is a total pothead. He's 19 years old and has a job but doesn't go to school and on his days off, all he does is stink up the whole house with weed. His mom will come home unexpected sometimes and flip out and threaten to kick him out. I can't understand the situation completely because I don't live there. But what is a parent suposed to do when they have a son/daughter that's an absolute pothead but is still dependant on you?
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2/13/2008 2:56:15 PM blonde
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Have they tried getting him into a rehab program? It's easy to say you can't live here unless you quit, but not many parents actually have the heart to kick their son/daughter out in the street. A lot of families end up being enablers towards addicts, getting mad and having a fit isn't really helping the situation.
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2/15/2008 1:31:35 PM jonnyjon
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I think the son needs some motivation to stop smoking. He cant just not smoke because his parents will get mad. He has to trully want to quit. Maybe his parents can bribe him. like tell him theyll buy him a new car if he stops, and then that could get him to quit for good, and he might like being sober. first motivate him.
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2/18/2008 1:51:57 PM leighdu
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JazzyAllie wrote
One of my best friends has a brother that is a total pothead. He's 19 years old and has a job but doesn't go to school and on his days off, all he does is stink up the whole house with weed. His mom will come home unexpected sometimes and flip out and threaten to kick him out. I can't understand the situation completely because I don't live there. But what is a parent suposed to do when they have a son/daughter that's an absolute pothead but is still dependant on you?


Sorry, but if he didn't agree to rehab then I would kick his butt out of the house. He is a grown man, even if he doesn't act like. If he can't respect the house rules or get into treatment, then he should be on his own. Sometimes tough love works the best.
Re: Pothead son
2/19/2008 11:35:58 AM verymary
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Has she ever talked to him about rehab?
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2/20/2008 2:23:23 PM jazzyallie
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Yea he's gone before, but it was mostly for alcohol. He doesn't drink anymore but he never really stopped smoking the whole time he was in rehab. And he said that everyone in his rehab classes just talked about doing drugs anyway. And as for motiation, his parents said that they would pay for him and his girlfriend to go to Hawaii if he stopped smoking and he still hasn't.... he already has a nice car too.
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5/14/2008 4:09:22 PM AliBaba
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I think you might just have to let him realize by himself that he has a problem.  For some people it takes a lot longer, but give it time, maybe he just hasn't found his passion in life.  I know a lot of people that were like this and one day they decided to quit for good and that was it.
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5/15/2008 10:55:13 AM V4victory
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I think if his parents dicipline him more it cuold teach him that smoking is a serious thing and he shouldn't be doing it. stopping him before he gets introuble by the law is a much smarter thing to do.
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