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how can i make it up

how can i make it up

1/4/2008 10:45:00 AM gusgoose
10 Posts

I know I've caused my parents so much heart ache and head aches and I didn't turn out to be the man they wanted me to be and I feel so horrible about it. I'm trying to quit but is there anyway I can make it up to them. I know buying them a present will probably look like im sucking up but I reeeeally want to make up to them.

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1/9/2008 3:06:30 PM alessandra
263 Posts

I think you should just stay sober and keep making steps toward becoming the guy they want you to be. I had an exboyfriend in a similar situation and whenever he was sober, his parents loooved him so much and would actually talk to him like normal. But when he was using its like they didn't even want him living with them.

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1/17/2008 10:40:40 AM joemann
8 Posts

Just give it time and they'll end up forgetting it a little. Get sober, show them you've changed and become the man they wanted you to be. That would probably make them very proud.

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5/15/2008 11:02:33 AM V4victory
27 Posts

If you live on your own I think what you should do is invite them for a nice dinner, cook something really nice and make an announcement that your sober and how long you've been sober for.. itll make them really proud and show them how you've most definately grown up. But dont ever go back to using because that'll break their hearts even more than the first time.

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9/12/2008 3:26:13 PM TAZZmania
30 Posts

V4victory said: If you live on your own I think what you should do is invite them for a nice dinner, cook something really nice and make an announcement that your sober and how long you've been sober for.. itll make them really proud and show them how you've most definately grown up. But dont ever go back to using because that'll break their hearts even more than the first time.

I think this is very good advice. But also I think you should develop a stronger relationship with them and become the man they've always wanted you to be. Your parents always want whats best for you. And they love you, they'll be able to forget about your mistakes if you compensate them for things much better.

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9/15/2008 3:06:20 PM alessandra
263 Posts

After being in recovery for a long time I've learned a valuable lesson that applies to everyone, especially addicts. "People will forget what you said, and they will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel." If you can change and make your parents feel proud, then you can make up for how you made them feel in the past.

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9/16/2008 3:44:50 PM carol
24 Posts

I've messed up with my parents so many times. I thought they would never look at me the same. I let them down a lot and didn't even care and I shattered their hearts. But its been about three years since I've changed and become a better person. My parents dont hold the things I've done against me, they forgot bout all that and they love me and they are unbelievably proud of me. And you can do the same with your parents.

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