I'm a grandma and I'm trying to stop my grandkids from becoming addicts. I know they are using drugs because I've found painkiller in their pockets and I know they are getting high because I've seen all the signs on them lots of times. However when I mention it to them they deny it or find excuses. Those are the drugs that I know of and I'm scared to think of all the other drugs they could be using. And what scares me more is I really dont know how to stop them.

try regularly drug testing them. My friends parents did that to him and that stopped him.

grannie28 said: I'm a grandma and I'm trying to stop my grandkids from becoming addicts. I know they are using drugs because I've found painkiller in their pockets and I know they are getting high because I've seen all the signs on them lots of times. However when I mention it to them they deny it or find excuses. Those are the drugs that I know of and I'm scared to think of all the other drugs they could be using. And what scares me more is I really dont know how to stop them.

It seems that many people are afraid to show some tough love to their kids and grandkids. If you have a feeling that they are doing drugs, and they are not opening up to you, maybe it's time to ship them to rehab. So many people think that that is harsh, but if your grandkids are minors then you (if have the legal right to) or their parents have every right to get them that kind of help.

Uh... tell your own kids, their parents?

Besides, finding painkillers, everyone takes painkillers for every little ache these days, that's hardly something, and my mum thinks I'm high on drugs cause my eyes are always bloodshot. I know your worried but you should really tell their parents.

do you spend time with them? Get very very involved in their lives. But dont do it in a boring way, do things they like. I took my grandkids on a cruise we had a blast. Go to the movies with them, but dont go to the ones that their friends go to, they tend to get embarassed, take them out to dinner spoil them. I've realised the more that parents and grandparents are involved in a teens lives the less they think about drugs

It seems liek there may be a different situation with their parents, because why are you taking care of them?  If their parents are on drugs or divorced, then the chances of them doing drugs sadly increases.  When my parents got divorced, I went to live with my mom and she was basically an absent mom because she had to work so much, it's like no one was there to raise me.  So eventually I turned to drugs and alcohol and it seemed normal to me.  Now, thankfully I'm recovered but now that my parents are a lot more civilized than they used to act, I can finally have some support!

I would unexpectedly drug test them if I were you. Then if you see they are abusing drugs, thats when its time to take action and do something about it. Its okay to worry ofcourse, but all you could do when your worried with no proof is just getting really involved with their lives. Maybe if you catch them and totally scare them, threaten to kick them out (but dont really do it), ground them for a really long time. Even school for like 2 days (thats when my mom scared me the most). Do whatever it takes to stop them Also be aware of what friends they hang out with because that place a big role.

Do you think it is okay to kick your children out when they are addicted to something (alcohol to gaming)? I know of so many kids that rip their parents off and steal their things to sell for drug money. Is this okay? What should parents do to make sure their children are safe and so are their belongings?

What if they have nowhere else to go?  I don't think a parent should ever kick out their daughter.  If a guy gets kicked out, he can just go crash at a friends house for a few nights.  But girls are different, they can get picked up so easily by any stranger and wind up in prostitution or raped and killed.

ThaGrouch said: What if they have nowhere else to go?  I don't think a parent should ever kick out their daughter.  If a guy gets kicked out, he can just go crash at a friends house for a few nights.  But girls are different, they can get picked up so easily by any stranger and wind up in prostitution or raped and killed.

I had a friend whos mom threatened to kick her out so much. After a while she felt unwanted. She was 17 and started dating a 28 year old, he got put in jail and she waited 5 months till he got out and by that time she was 18 and she moved in with him right away. Her mom wants her back home but she feels like she'd lose so much if she went back after everything. Her relationship with him is terrible now and she doesn't feel any love at all. She's miserable all the time but she feels as if shes stuck. He takes care of her and she thinks thats what she needs.