My son is in recovery and seems to be doing well, yet sometimes I still find myself getting suspicious of his behavior. He lives with us but is an adult who is self-supporting and going about things the right way in terms of making seemingly good decisions and keeping up with his own therapy sessions. Since I seem to be having issues with trust and control, I am wondering if therapy is a good option for me and other family members still struggling with this.

Your just having trouble trusting him again. It takes a while to gain that trust back. And honestly I think it will always be in the back of your mind that your son may be still abusing drugs. Honestly I dont think you need treatment for this, just time to get used to it and start trusting that your son is making the right decisions.

If its been a few months and you still feel like you dont trust him and its not getting better then maybe you should go to therapy. Maybe a therapy with him. Your son is also human though and he has made some mistakes. It seems like he is trying very hard to get his life back on track and stop reminising his past and making a brand new future. If you see he is trying to be sober then support him all you can and give him all you've got to help him. But if your doubting him then your attracting that to happen and that is what will happen.

My mom is going through a similar situation with my brother.  He's 20 years old and just recently quit smoking pot, like 2 days ago.  Even though he promised her that he would give up his habit, he kept smoking... the promise was made over a year ago.  And she just found out that he's failing all of his classes in college.  He has a scholarship and he's failed a lot of the classes he took.  So now he's thinking about starting over at a junior college and giving up his scholarship.  I can tell that shes feeling so overwhelmed right now but she basically told him that if he doesn't start passing his classes, then he'll have to move out and find a job.  I'm not really sure what to tell her either to make her feel better. 

Adrian said: My mom is going through a similar situation with my brother.  He's 20 years old and just recently quit smoking pot, like 2 days ago.  Even though he promised her that he would give up his habit, he kept smoking... the promise was made over a year ago.  And she just found out that he's failing all of his classes in college.  He has a scholarship and he's failed a lot of the classes he took.  So now he's thinking about starting over at a junior college and giving up his scholarship.  I can tell that shes feeling so overwhelmed right now but she basically told him that if he doesn't start passing his classes, then he'll have to move out and find a job.  I'm not really sure what to tell her either to make her feel better. 

Maybe you should try talking to your brother about it. show him how much it bothers your mom. Honestly I dont think him failing would have to do with drugs because if hes doing them now and hasn't stopped then when he got the scholarship wasn't he also still smoking? I think its just laziness and preoccupation with other things thats making him fail. But talk to him about it  maybe your help will help him more than a parent would.

My brother has been an heroin addict for the past 15 years and regardless of his behaviour I have always been supportive with hope that at some point he would recognise that he has a problem and needs help. Over the  years he has been in detox about four times and the result is always the same , he reverts back to the same behaviours. My belief is because he's doing the same things and at those points he wasn't ready to submit. My brother used to live with me but after his last attempt , he didnt see it htrough I made a point that I wasn't going to enable this addiction any longer and I took the necessary steps and let him know that it was time for him to move on. Throughout his addiction he has always come to me and asked to borrow money and I have always questioned him as to what these funds were for and it always had a return policy. Just recently I accompanied him to one of his addiction meetings and was told also that I have an addiction, because I question him when he wants to borrow from me. I don't feel that I have an addiction. They say this is because when it comes to him I am constantly thinking of the drug. Do I? Is that a sign  that I am an addict. I lose no sleep when I haven"t seen him but do hope in all goodness that he is doing well. This is because I know that he is battling a disease.  I am functioning well I am not unhappy . What, I am wondering is that because you are a fanmily member of an addict,  is this to say that you need therapy because you care, he hasn't stripped of my goals. I have no ailments and I feel relatively good and there are some bumps and curves in my life but thats life. 

Maybe they shouldn't have called you an addict, but there are some people that are enablers.  They make it possible for an addict to carry on their lifestyle, or are sometimes addicted to that person's dependency on them.  But you seems like a very nice person, maybe you need to show some tough love.  Addicts are the type of people that will use all of their resources around them, any possible way to get money to afford their drugs.  I have an older brother and I only give him money, maybe once a month.  And it's $5 or $10 if he's short on cash, and then he pays me back.  But I can't imagine why he would need more than that, he's an adult and has a job, so there's really no reason why I should give him money.  But there's other ways of showing love, besides giving money.  It's good that you're being supportive by attending meeting with him, that shows a lot.

I don't know what to do anymore. The love of my life is addicted to xanax. He refuses to see that he has a problem. He says its just to escape a few times a week but he would spend every dime we have to obtain them. He does have a prescription for them but takes 5 to 10 times the amount prescribed. I finally got to the point I couldn't take it anymore. I gave him a choice, me or the drugs. He chose the drugs. I am not sure how to deal with finding out that the person I had planned on spending the rest of my life with doesn't love me enough to seek professional help. He has chosen to move out instead. And no for the last 2 days I have been sick to my stomach, vomiting and pretty much staying in bed. He says I need to mind my own business. How do I make him see that his addiction is affecting both of us?

First of all, your own physical health should be the priority right now. If you're that sick, then you might want to go see your physician to see if anything else is wrong with you.  And whether or not your bf decides to get help, you still need to keep your own physical/emotional needs met.  I've dealed with a similar situation with my ex, but he was addicted to cocaine, a little different, but still, I was so fed up at one point that I just one day broke up with him.  We went from being absolutely inseperable to not talking.  He would call me 5-30 times a day but I didn't answer.  I finally picked up after about two weeks but I had made space between us and I wasn't budging.  He finally realized how much he loved me and that he can't picture his life without me.  He's done everything right since then, but I'm still not with him.  I don't plan on getting back with him, but if I ever change my mind it'll be after a year because I want him to get better on his own, because of his own will to do so. 
I can't say I know exactly what you're going through, but I hope that you have someone close to you that you can fall back on.  Just do what makes you happy right now, try to get better and know that he will come around, and if for some reason he doesn't, then he wasn't worth it and you can find someone better.  Addiction is a really sad thing that can happen to everyone, I'm sorry he's so addicted, but you can't let it ruin your life too.  Just be strong and offer him help, but don't give him any second chances if he really doesn't deserve one.