I know this lady who is very nice, she has one child and he is a great kid to be around. He really wanted to meet his father and finally had the chance to do so, when he was 10. The man stole from him and his mother, and acted like it was their fault. He apparently wanted the items so he could trade them for drugs. The kid asked his mother if he had to like the father, and was very hurt that this man stole from his mother.

it is sad when things like this occur and I can see that this is one thing that this kid will never be a part of. Just wanted to share this story.

Sadly, some fathers are not apt to become fathers in the first place. It's a pity of kids at that age to be able to meet their father for the first time and do that horrible thing to them. My heart goes out to the kid.

That kid is much better off without his father. I can feel for him because I've somewhat been in that postion. My father isn't the greatest role model ever and has been absent for most my life. And whenever he's around it's all lies and just horrible. I never felt like i missed out because i didn't have a father around, infact I was happy he wasn't there. If he's not a good man why should I want him and miss him in my life? My mother played both roles and was very great at it and that was more than enough.

It's hard for males especially when the father is absent, also same case for girls when the mother is absent.  But one day the father may come around and realize how much he screwed up in raising his son.  My dad was always there for me, but he was an alcoholic and he feels grief for it everyday.  He comes to visit our family every week but sometimes it's heartbreaking because he knows he's the one that broke up our family and he'll live with this for the rest of his life.  The truth is that kids mimic their same-sex parent and if the parent is messed up, it's best for everyone if they're out of the picture. 

Thats so sad. If I was the mother I wouldn't have told him that that was his father. I think the kid could be hurt by that forever and may even think that he doesn't deserve to be a father because his own father is like that. I know a girl who got raped by her step father and her mother did nothing about it, she knew about it and did nothing, instead she blamed the girl for turning him on. She moved out a few years later,but now when we talk about having kids she doesn't want to at all because of what her mother did to her and accepted that happened to her. She doesn't want to turn out to be a mother likethat.