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ENOUGH
9/17/2007 8:08:00 PM squirrel
36 Posts squirrel's Avatar
We admitted we were powerless over---,that our lives had become unmanageable.
"Enough"!If you can say that and mean it, you can take Step One. Is there something out of control in your life?
Erratic emotions? Dependence on alcohol or other chemicals? Overeating? Whatever the problem, is it hurting you? Have you tried to handle it on your own? Are you tired of hurting?If you can answer YES to these questions , you are admiting that some aea of your life is unmanageable and you are powerless to control it.
For most of us, step one means TO STOP KIDDING YOURSELF. Stop making excuses, pretending, blaming, rationalizing. The problem is real and the problem is mine--not my mate's, not my bosss's, not the hard cruel world's. Other people may very well have problems related to mine, but they'll have to take their own First Step. We're talking about ourselves here. How we behave right now, today. How other people treat us is not the issue. Why we do as we do is not the point either. As far as the First Step goes, why is a fool's question. Not only can why lead you down a garden path of rationalizing, but it doesn't matter. We are who we are. We do the things we do.What is hurting my life, and whose problem is it? That is all. What? Now it is time to name your DEVIL .Only you know what it is that is riding your back. What is it that clouds your vision and throws boulder in your path? Lay it on the table and look at it. To call out the truth of your own limitions is to resign as your own jailer. If you want out of your cell, look your problem in the face, call out its name, and the choice becomes yours. Because from here on in the recovery process, the only truth you can't deal with is the truth you can't face. Who? Who's tried at one point or another , to get on top of the problem, to throw a scarf on it and say it's pretty, to whittle it down to size, or to slap a band-aid on it. Who? It's your life my friend. Claim your own truth so you can do something about it. Until it hurts more to hide the truth than it does to face up to it we aren't ready to get better. And until we admit that we are both powerless and that certain areas of our lives are unmanageable we aren't ready for the freedom trail that recovery is. HAVE YOU HAD ENOUGH
Re: ENOUGH
9/17/2007 9:06:34 PM eashaw
15 Posts eashaw's Avatar
I don't think I've ever heard it put better. I completely agree. As long as we keep rationalizing as to why we drink or do drugs or whatever we are not ready to own up to the fact that WE do it by choice. Sure it eventually becomes an addiction that we are powerless over, but ultimately we are the ones who choose to drink/use/whatever. When we are ready to accept our responsibility and put our lives in the hands of a Higher Power only then can we begin to recover. However, we have to be careful here as well. Admitting powerlessness is not the same as saying I can't stop. Turning our live over to a Higher Power does not mean we are no longer responsible for our actions. I have seen it happen time and again where someone usually new to recovery uses their powerlessness as an excuse to relapse. It's a very fine line but if one can walk it and stay on the right side, their recovery process will bring success.
Re: ENOUGH
11/26/2007 7:42:20 PM lalajean
98 Posts lalajean's Avatar
I think some people are afraid to admit that they really do not have control over their lives. What they do not realize is that most everyone else out there does not have any control either. Think about this, you leave your home and your are driving down a road, what do you really have control of at that point?
Re: ENOUGH
11/27/2007 1:10:13 PM rick
41 Posts rick's Avatar
A lot of people have fear, not fear of their own limits, but fear of what other people will think about them, and that is sad, we should always be thinking for our own benefit first :D
RE: Re: ENOUGH
8/28/2008 10:56:37 AM Cleopatra
18 Posts Cleopatra's Avatar
Through out my addiciton I made a lot of excuses for myself and thats what prolonged my addiction. I sat one day and realised I needed to stop these ridiculous excuses and realise I have a problem and I need to stop!! Just because I was having a bad day I'd use, if there was traffic in the morning I'd use and just use that as an exucse. I'd use so many excuses just to take drugs. But I'm done now! and I've been done for almost a year!
RE: Re: ENOUGH
10/7/2008 9:08:23 AM taikwan
25 Posts taikwan's Avatar
Wow you put it in great perspective. It's not just drug abuse that we can just have enough of its anything that hurts us whether its drugs, technology or people. But its hard to stick with your word. Its extremely hard for me because I keep making excuses and just think things will get better later on. I'll naturally quit and wont have to go through all the steps of recovery. But that's not the way it goes and I'm just living a fantasy thinking that.
RE: Re: ENOUGH
10/9/2008 9:20:03 AM cody
30 Posts cody's Avatar
my demon is a person that I really really need to stay away from. She hurts me everyday of my life and I finally said enough and meant it more than ever 2 days ago. I'm trying my hardest to stay away from her and have my addiction of her fade away! Wish me luck lets hope I can do this.
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