Coming up with a knife to your husband is a pretty delicate situation you got there. I think this should have been reported to the police. People like your cousin can't get much help from family or friends if he behaves like that, he should be taken to a concelor imediatelly.

I think you should try an intervention. bring all the important people in his life and talk to him about his problem and try to make him fix it. It seems like you might be his last hope. and it will release a lot of stress off of you too.

Well, I find that helping people really comes down to what you allow to happen in your presence. Now I am sure that we cannot just go to someone persons house and tell they have the stop, although there is many people that have done this. I would say a much better approach would be to tell them you are choosing not to visit with them if they are going to behave in this manner. Do not be an enabler to them.

Another think that we can do to help is to shock people, I mean, show them how bad the consequences of what they are doing will bring, use past stories, that can make people open their eyes!

Hello, I am new here, 15 years in recovery and I work with people in recovery. For me in the question of how do we help others, I found it a painful exercise in life learning, and in every situation, there seems to be a different answer. One place I reached is that place...(never thought I would) where I am actually grateful for all my own using, because I now see where every bit of it has laid the ground work of experience for me now in my life and work. None of it was a waste now, which in turn has changed my view of helping others, and how I actually think about their using. I no longer look at it like they are wasting their lives. I tend to view it as part of their life journey, and since I can't know what their life is suppose to be about, I tend to trust that they are being and doing whatever it is they need to be and do to get where they need to get on their journeys. What I can and do do is to love them and connect with them in whatever aspect I am capable of at the moment. Some days or with some loved ones, I am not always able to be alright with where they are...but more often today than not I am able to be alright! Big growth for me there! If not for my own sobriety, I would be trying to control their every breath!:-)
Great topic here, thanks for letting me share!

Hello, I am new here, 15 years in recovery and I work with people in recovery. For me in the question of how do we help others, I found it a painful exercise in life learning, and in every situation, there seems to be a different answer. One place I reached is that place...(never thought I would) where I am actually grateful for all my own using, because I now see where every bit of it has laid the ground work of experience for me now in my life and work. None of it was a waste now, which in turn has changed my view of helping others, and how I actually think about their using. I no longer look at it like they are wasting their lives. I tend to view it as part of their life journey, and since I can't know what their life is suppose to be about, I tend to trust that they are being and doing whatever it is they need to be and do to get where they need to get on their journeys. What I can and do do is to love them and connect with them in whatever aspect I am capable of at the moment. Some days or with some loved ones, I am not always able to be alright with where they are...but more often today than not I am able to be alright! Big growth for me there! If not for my own sobriety, I would be trying to control their every breath!:-)
Great topic here, thanks for letting me share!