Some might think it'd be crazy to "unfriend" your spouse on facebook, but it might be something to reconsider.  In a new relationship, facebook could be something to look into, reading your crush's every update, evaluating new friends.. it's new and fun and it shows insight about the person, that you wouldn't get unless you're with them 24/7 which is impossible.  But in long term relationships, facebook could be disastrous.  Because we are constantly cultivating ourselves with a sense of newness and novelty in our relationships.  If you think back to the beginning of  your relationship, there was more mystery.  You didn't know every little thing your partner was thinking or doing.... And the pursuit of knowing each other drove you to new points of desire and passion.  The conventional wisdom tells us that in relationships there should be no secrets, there should be nothing to hide — but if nothing is hidden, then what is there to seek? When you’re in a long-term relationship, you don’t need more information about your partner, you need less. So go ahead, unfriend your spouse, you just might gain a lover!

I can definitely see Facebook creating problems in a relationship.  Not only can your lover start to get bored of your updates or not enough updates or whatever, sometimes it can get annoying when they are evaluating everything about your page.  It's essentially your own website and with your significant other your number one fan that could be weird.  It's your own space to express yourself!

My wife is very addicted to Facebook, the thing is I love her. but the hours of Facebooking and now meeting up with old friends has really come between us.She seems not to care about how I feel and every time we talk about it it seems to be meant with an altumatem I do this or else I do that I've asked her to go to counseling but I don't think she would do it for me or the children. It seems that finally after 13 years I can say she is selfish and really I guess I just don't like her! To me my family always has and will come first and I have strong feelings about that  also understand the want in finding out how old friends are doing but hours upon hours of filtering through peoples frind list is a little juvenile and seems to be reverting my wife to a teenage busybody. Any suggestions?