hi I am 28 yrs old and tired of sleeping around and want to change but dont know how to stop

Well I am a sex addict.as apathological liar and I sleep around I drink and smoke .I am worried I will never have a healthy relationship .I just want to know how to relate with guys without sex and flirting .People tell me I am smart and intelligent however they say I am self destructive ,I have a good job but my sex life is making me miserable and the fact that now I am scared of  pursuing a normal relationship.When I do met nice guys I mess it up by being unreliable.

The fact that you want a normal healthy relationship and that you dont want this sex rampage to go on anymore you have taken the first step. I think you just need to set your mind to it that your going to stop.You can meet a wonderful person and have amazing sex with them, and have it just be them. maybe going to a sexaholic annonymous class, or joining a supportgroup would help. Or just confiding in a very good friend and having their support. Set up some rules and bounderies and dont cross them. If your sleeping around every night set up a rule that you wont sleep with anyone for a week or two, after you have completed that make it longer to two weeks, three, a month. Yes, this might sound outrageous to you, but everything thats worth having is worth fighting for. Once you meet a person you think is suitable still have some rules with that, dont sleep with them for a few days,or weeks. And when your with them, stick with them and dont lie. If you start a relationship with lies, the relationship will end with much worse lies. A healthy, happy relationship is all about honesty, and I think you should aim for that. I trully believe you can do this and have a great relationship and get over your sex addiction. It's just up to you whether your willing to work hard enough for it.