HI.  I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I'm having regrets about cutting a certain friend out of my life.  We had been friends for over seven years and we are both children of alcoholics.  We could tell each other things that no one else could hear.  And we were very close.  When we were younger, my friend was clinically depressed for over a 1 1/2 years.  And she tried to kill herself at my house.  She apologized to me and I stopped talking to her.  But because of the closeness we had, I still forgave her, despite the changes in me.  I feel bad about losing contact with her.  About two years ago, she got married and really wanted me to go to her wedding but I made up an excuse to not go.  I still think about her from time to time, but I feel like because of what she did, it changed the way I thought about her as a person and ever since then I've felt like I didn't want her in my life.  Is that wrong?

I think it is wrong. She was a really good friend of yours and although she made terrible decisions like trying to kill herself at your house, she was sick, she was depressed. I dont think you should cut her out at all. Infact I think you should reconcile with her. It's already a waste that you lost all these years that you could've been friends, why waste more? Obviously you miss her since you still think of her so I really think you should give her a call.

You know sometimes women are different about friendships.  I've noticed this with my sister.  Different girls have come and gone into her life.  She's had some really great friends and really terrible friends.  And we are only as good as the company that we keep around us.  If you're not comfortable with the decision that your friend put you through in the past, then you don't necessarily have to stay friends with her.  It's normal to think about how people are doing, even when we haven't seen or talked to them in years.