Everyone has a best friend that they truly love and care for.  We naturally want the best for our 'BFFs' and love them like our own family members.  Well if a family member, say a sister became a stripper or posed for sexy magazines, then of course you'd still love and care for them and probably be disappointed too.  But I think it hurts more when it's your best friend.  I suspect that my best friend is slowly becoming a stripper or is thinking about it.  She considers herself a model because she poses for sexy pictures, but that's not modeling to me!  I had just heard something about it, and I asked her if she was stripping, she said NO.  And I replied You Better Not Be!  Even if she does, it's her choice. I can't control her every move, but it makes me sad and I'm not sure if I should distance myself to protect my reputation or be there for her as a best friend like I know she would for me..

Do you think she would confide in you if she did start stripping? I know I have a best friend who I trust completely but there's somethings I just cant tell him. I know he would think of me differently.  I think you should be there for her but not encourage her. Be there when she needs you but try to talk her out of it as much as possible. She's going to regret it big time if she starts doing that.

I have a friend who has been messing up in life, completely going around in circles for a few years now.  Almost every week now I get a call that's desperate, like I need your help.  And I'm there for her, but honestly you can't change a person's mind.  They will grow up and realize how much time they've wasted by being irresponsible.  Eventually they'll get it, and they'll see that you were a good friend and always there for them.  That's really all you can do. 

Sometimes when you baby your friends they never do learn. I have a friend who slept around quite a bit. She would tell me about it the next day and sometimes say she regrets it and I was always there for her and supporting her through it and just advising her not to do it again. But after boy number 12, I told her how angry I was with her and how she needs to have more self respect and morals, and that I was tired of telling her to stop over and over and over again and her not listen to me. She realized how upset I was about it and she was mad as well. We didn't talk for a week which is totally strange for us. After wards she called me crying, she told me she didn't want her best friend to think she's a slut and she knows she needs to stop before she messes up her life. And she stopped. It's hard for her but she has. And sometimes that's what some friends need, a dose of reality.

In the part of California where I live, it seems like there's a lot of girls that strip to make money.  After high school, most people go away to college or stay in town and attend a JC.  But it's hard to pay for even those classes by yourself.  Every semester it costs probably $500-600 just for classes and books.  But at state colleges, it's way more expensive.  And some people make the effort to go and pay, but then they end up failing because it can be hard to adjust.  So there's a lot of girls that decide to wait for college and they end up focusing making money.  Stripping can pay really well, doing shows at casinos, and even working at bars can be easy money.  It's wrong to say that's immoral because I can't judge anyone, but if someone decides to exploit themselves like that, they have to be prepared for what family members and some friends have to say about it. 

I knew a lot of girls after high school who also did promiscous things like stripping, porn, or became dancers at clubs. A lot of people get so focussed on making money and thats all that matters to them. They think that their education and their lives can wait and matters is making money in however way. I knew a girl who wanted to be a doctor right out of high school and she was really really smart. But she worked after her second semester in college and got so preoccupied in making money that the next semester she switched from a full time student to a student only taking 3 units a semester. Shes not doing anything wrong like stripping or anything but I still think theres a time to make money and theres a time to focus on developing your future. I do think that most the girls that do end upstripping or porn or anything that exposes their bodies will end up regretting it in the end. What if their kids see those pictures? or their parents?