My friends dad has kidney failure. He has to go in to the hospital every other day for dialysis. He's waiting for a kidney but there's 6000 people before him who are also waiting for kidneys. Not only that but doctors suspect that he may have some heart problems too and they're checking that out. He's been checked into the hospital twice this year because his lungs had water in them. Basically his whole health is falling apart. But the problem is that he continues smoking sooooooo much! It's happened three times where he stopped breathing during his dialysis. And after one of the times I came with my friend to the hospital and visited him and he kept trying to bribe us to get him a cigg. He told us he'll pay us each $100 for just one cigg and to watch the hallway and make sure a nurse doesn't come. He was being serious too, like he got upset when we wouldn't. Its so bad. Him quitting smoking would help him so incredibly much but he has no intention to and gets mad when we mention it. He's such a nice guy and playd a father figure in my life as well. It breaks my heart when I see him after his dialysis and hes so tired and withdrawn of all his energy, and even though he feels like dying he still has the ability to crack a joke as soon as he sees me. I wish he would stop smoking but his family, friends, and I have tried every possible way, he just doesn't want to.

You could try to forcefully get him to quit smoking.  Try getting the whole family together and explain to him how it hurts to see him smoke with the condition he's in.  He may feel like he's dying anyway so it doesn't really matter that he smokes.  But he's a father and has a responsibility.  If the tables were turned and his daughter had a deadly disease and was still smoking, I'm sure he would take things into his own hands and make her quit. 

Is he old? My grandpa is the exact same way I think they jsut get more stubborn the older they get. My grandpa has a serious case of diabetes, like really bad diabetes but he sits there and just eats soooo much chocolate. He keeps a little fridge in his room full of chocolate and will not and refuses to stay away from it. Its bad for his health and that much sugar could be fatal to him but he wont stop. We all get so worried about it but when we try to keep it away from it he puts us through hell that we regret helping him at all. We just let him do whatever and when hes in the hospital its his fault. You cant really control an addict, whether its a smoking addict or a chocolate addict like my grandpa. Theres nothing you can really do but pray to God that they'll be OK because no matter what you say they wont stop.

I'm not trying to be rude, but maybe he thinks that even if he quit it's too late now. I know tons of people who get diagnosed with lung cancer and keep smoking. The cancer is already there, even if they quit it might be too late. Also if there are 6000 people in front of him has he tried going to other hospitals? I'm sure the list is long anywhere. Are any of you guys candidates for giving him one of your kidneys? Maybe if he saw that there was hope he would feel more encouraged to quit. How does he get away with smoking in the hospital? Has he tried the patch or gum. That way he is slowly weaned off of the nicotine.

Maybe hes just one of those people who are pretty much careless about their health. I know a few people who are like that. Even when they're in the hospital and they're dying they only care at the moment that they're dying. When the doctor solves that then they're back to just not caring and smoking and drinking. They just think that death is going to come either way, someday and if they die at that time then thats the time that God has in store for them. They dont think that they could be extending their lives so much more if they just stop! They dont see the point in putting in the effort of quitting.