After recovering there can be lots of issues than seem as if they will never go away.  Sometimes jealousy from a partner can be one of them.  One of the symptoms of addiction is lying to and letting down the loved ones around you.  And especially if your partner was in the picture while you were addicted, then it can be especially hard for them to make the transition into trusting and accepting you.  I think patience is the best way to deal with those who are adjusting.  Jealousy goes along with mistrust and these basically take time to fix.  But if you know in your heart that you're being fair, and your intentions are right, then just simply try to be understanding and open.  Hopefully they will come around, maybe not, but no matter what stay true to yourself.  =)

I dont think jealousy is really associated with that, trust definitely is but I dont think jealousy. There's nothing really to be jealous of.

Trust often goes along with jealousy if both partners aren't making a conscience effort to improve the relationship.  When in recovery, usually the addict has the most to work on, but so does their supporters.  Overtime, the issues will hopefully be leveled out, but especially if the addict was addicted to sex, then there needs to be open communication.  And especially, lines need to be drawn of what's acceptable behavior and what's not.

I can understand jealousy being associated with a sex addiction because the addict may have been with other people too. But I dont really see how jealousy could have anything to do with a drug or alcohol addiction. Theres nothing to be jealous of. The addict would be getting better and the spouse would be helping and supporting.

juju44 said: I dont think jealousy is really associated with that, trust definitely is but I dont think jealousy. There's nothing really to be jealous of.

It's wrong to say exactly what goes along with addiction and recovery.  Try not to be so contradictory, especially if you're posting in a recovery forum.  I can relate to this post and your reply is somewhat discouraging to those who are affecting by this issue. 

alessandra said:

juju44 said: I dont think jealousy is really associated with that, trust definitely is but I dont think jealousy. There's nothing really to be jealous of.

It's wrong to say exactly what goes along with addiction and recovery.  Try not to be so contradictory, especially if you're posting in a recovery forum.  I can relate to this post and your reply is somewhat discouraging to those who are affecting by this issue. 

What do you mean by jealousy? Who would be the jealous one, the addict or the partner? And what type of things would they be jealous of?

This post may not necessarily apply to you or any situation you've been
in so it might be hard for you to relate.  Jealousy isn't only
associated with one type of scenario though.  For example, you have
changed and you know that and so does your partner yes? there are
things you would like to do, are these things that make your partner
feel jealous? If so you've dumped a lot of your jealously and maybe
your partner is now still not quite trusting of you and maybe
jealous....and perhaps I've got the wrong end of the stick and if I
have I'm sorry.

We have to remember that when becoming sober or having a partner become sober can mean a whole new lifestyle for a couple in recovery.  Especially when both partners have given up their DOC.  There can still be many emotions related to the past regarding drug use and lying especially.  But most importantly, we have to remember that jealousy is a toxic thing to a relationship, And it should be dealt with asap with good communication and actions that show the jealous partner that they can once again have trust.