I have a pretty serious problem so could I please have serious answers please.
Anyway I have a boyfriend who I have been with almost 2 years with. He is the most sensitive and caring man I have ever met. The only problem is he is known for that he has a gambling addiction to pokies.
He seems financially o.k now but you never know with a gambler. He wants to get married and move in and everything and loves me with all his heart and he said that he would wait for me. I love him and I do want to help him but I don't think it will happen. Besides my family doesn't accept him.
I really don't know what to do, I can't break up with him and hurt him but I don't want to have a miserable life. He will probably just go into depression again and who knows what will happen.
Thanks guys to anyone who can help me, greatly appreciated.

When it comes to spending the rest of your life with someone you kind of have to be selfish and think about whats best for you. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Are there too many problems to fix for you to work out? Put yourself first and dont think about how he would cope without you or how he would feel without you. If your going more towards a no answer then I would step out of this relationship as soon as possible so you dont get more attached and neither does he. If you do then work on his flaws. If he has a gambling problem tell him he needs to STOP! not stop, but STOP! Like never touch another card or machine again. Its not going to lead him to wealth its going to make him broke. If he says hes doing it for fun tell him he can play with monopoly money instead. If he has a drug addiction this needs to STOP also. And you cant be lenient about any of these things. Your not doing something small you'd be spending the rest of your life with him and taking a vow to stick with him through everything, he will be the father of your child and in your life forever. It's not a small decision so you have to be completely sure all these problems are gone.

I agree with mrs.ugly.. And I think what you should do is try to do all these from now. Tell him straight up that you wont be with him and you two will never have a future if he doesn't stop it all. Have an intervention get his family involved, a therapist, even if you need to send him to a treatment center its worth it.

I think you should approach the idea rationally and without anger or big emotions.  Think about it, everything your going to say so that you have confidence when talking to him about it.  And ask him if he's willing to quit for himself and your relationship.  Let him know that before he asks you to marry him, he has to have already quit.  There will be no gambling during the engagement or anytime during the marriage.  So see what he says, and if he has to think about it, then he's obviously not serious enough about the relationship.  Be prepared for both answers and stay strong!

I think Smileys right. Ask him to quit and if he agrees right away then he might just quit but its going to take a lot of work. Gambling addictions are hard to beat. But make it clear to him that you wont deal with it at all. Like if he gambles once thats it your gone. If you for some reason think he cant do it then I suggest ending things before its too late. When it comes to making a decision to spend the rest of your life with someone you have to think hard andnot about the good things but the bad. Theres some bad habits that you can deal with like if he bites his nails and it drives you crazy or if he leaves his underwear on the floor things likt that you can put up with it. But gambling or drugs and things like that will affect you a lot and your future kids as well. I dont think you should continue with that at all.

Gambling is fun once in a while.. like the post mentioning a family trip with limits.  But gambling as a habit is not fun.. it's a bad habit.  This past weekend I went to a military ball and it was held at a casino.  Well it was a lot of fun and my friend's date ended up gambling.  He won over $700 but she was stuck without her date until almost 4 o'clock in the morning she had to go get him.  He said he probably would've stayed there all night if we hadn't come.  Gambling is fun once in a while, but it's definitely meant for special occasions.  Think of all that time, money, effort he's spending on gambling, it could be with you.  When you're with someone and you love them, things they do start to seem more okay to you, even though maybe prior to entering the relationship, you may have felt differently about that issue.  My old boyfriend use to smoke weed and I didn't agree with it at first, but slowly I started changing my mind about it, and eventually I had to call a quits because I realized how easy it is to change your standards when you care for someone. 

lyf-although I do agree with what everyone posted, if your boyfriend is truly addicted to gambling it won't be that easy to just say stop. Unless he is willing to try cold turkey, most likely he is going to need professional help to get him through this. If he is having a difficult time quitting I don't think that means he doesn't love you or anything like that, but quitting anything you do can be VERY hard and relapsing may occur. Maybe even try asking advice from the online professional from this site. I believe you do really care about him and if you are willing to stick with him through all of this I wish you the best of luck. Please keep us posted.