The crowd my family and parents is friends with is composed of some really nice people who are trully amazing and some really selfish people who love to bring people down. And everyone is in their own clicks, those nice people stick together at all times, those selfish people are together everyday and the ones who are a bit of both are best friends. Even the kids are localized this way. However whenever one person has a party, all these clicks are invited. It makes me really angry though because the adults that like to bring everyone down decide to bring the kids down too just so they bother the parent.
Recently the new talk is about me! An overweight mother with an overweight daughter, and an extremely extremely skinny mother decided to sit my mom down and tell her that her daughter is way too skinny. They started saying that I look ugly, I dont have a feminine body and my body is more like a ten year olds. Yesterday as I was sitting watching TV with my mother and she lectured me for 20 minutes about how I need to gain weight and its not nice. I find this completely ridiculous tho, I'm not super skinny. I have some curves but this is the way my body naturally is. I'm not trying to lose weight or gain weight I dont even pay attention to my weight and I hate how these ladies get involved in everyones business and have to insult others just to make themselves feel better. If I didn't know the way their clicks worked they could've easily caused me an eating disorder. And God knows what other things they said about other people also. I think this is totally wrong, if they have problems with a person they should mention it to them not take it out on their kids. But the thing that i found to be so pathetic was that the skinny lady that was saying this is 50 years old and probably wears the same size pants as me. She's like a peice of cardboard, super thin and like a stick!!

I think your mom is the one who should be feeling bad in this situation.  It's a parent's duty to always stick up for their kids, and her listening to these hateful people and releasing what on your chest, is only causing hurt to yours.  There are all kinds of body types, and you may be going through something that's causing you to lose weight, but as long as you're healthy and happy, then that's all that should matter.  My parents main concern is my happiness and well being.  My weight and body type is the least of my worries. And if you're happy with your body then tell your mom that.  I personally would've told her to worry about her own body and stop worrying about mine.

Your moms friends seem like people that have no lives and live theres by making fun of others. They're the type of people that need to bring others down in order for them to feel happy. And its really sad but there are a lot of people who are actually like that. As long as your happy with your body and the whole world isn't saying your too skinny then WHO CARES! At the end of the day your living your life for you not for someone else. So be happy with whatever your happy with and tell your mom your old enough to realize if you have a weight problem and that your fine with your body the way it is. I know my body fluctuates, one day I'll be super skinny but within 48 hours I'll have a full body again.

Your moms friends seem like people that have no lives and live theres by making fun of others. They're the type of people that need to bring others down in order for them to feel happy. And its really sad but there are a lot of people who are actually like that. As long as your happy with your body and the whole world isn't saying your too skinny then WHO CARES! At the end of the day your living your life for you not for someone else. So be happy with whatever your happy with and tell your mom your old enough to realize if you have a weight problem and that your fine with your body the way it is. I know my body fluctuates, one day I'll be super skinny but within 48 hours I'll have a full body again.

I think its really good that you didn't let what they said get to you. If your happy with your body then thats all that matters. Stay with it. As long as the whole world isn't telling you your too skinny and you really dont have an eating problem then who cares about any of them. That overweight mother is probably just jealous since your not as big as her daughter. I hate people like that, I dont get why they can't just be happy for others and not want to bring them down all the time.

My wife is a sucker for these kind of people.  I remember someone had said something about our daughter.. who btw is beautiful inside and out, and is well fit-- absolutely nothing wrong with her weight, she weighs only 110 pounds.  Well one of my daughter's friend's own mother made a comment about her saying, well she's not thaat skinny.  As if everyone had been calling her skinny and she had enough arrogance to point out that my daughter is certainly not thin.. It really ticked my wife off, considering this lady has had multiple plastic surgeries to stay looking young.  Some people think that their opinion is of some importance, however they're obvously jealous/insecure/ignorant for thinking that.

Although I agree that people shouldn't barge in on your personal life, eating disorders are very serious. There is a difference though between being genuinely concerned and just finding something to nag about. I also don't think that you could ever be old enough to say you can control an eating disorder. They really do run your life to the point of no happiness. This girl at my church dropped 40 pounds from not eating in one summer, she still lies about what she eats, but her parents are in denial. It's gotten so bad that she is losing her hair, but no one thinks that it's from not eating! It's ridiculous.

lorein-I know someone else with a similar problem. We aren't that great of friends though and I feel like it's none of my business to question her eating habits or even assume that she has an eating disorder. I just don't really know what to do though. Someone in my family had one when they were a teenager and I've heard plenty of stories about it, so it really does concern me.

I encounter the same problems every day with various people who do not know I have an ED. I used to bite my tongue and not say anything. But then I decided that I had a right to voice my own opinions and protest their complaints. I, and anyone else, can do so without disclosing personal information.

IE:

"I think people should focus on being happy with who they are and not what they look like"
"When I judge people, I judge them by character. I think people should judge themselves this way too."

Not only is it a great challenge to speak up this way in your recovery, but you may also help the perspective of someone else.