Last week I found out very sad news about my father, he got his second DUI and will have to lose his license.  This causes big problems for him and also my family because he's being forced to lose his job and also pay lots of legal fees.  My mom is stressed out of her mind, wondering what we're going to do for money.  I want to help out, but what I can give doesn't make much of a difference. 
    The good thing that's come out of this is that he's finally given up drinking.  I know it's a big deal to him, and it took a lot to get him to stop, however it was selfish for him to carry on with this risky behavior for so long.  My parents divorced because of his alcoholism and it's caused so many problems for many years.  He's been sober for 8 days now and I want to support him, but I'm also angry about how many problems he's caused our family, even after the divorce. 

It's natural to react with anger, obviously you're going to feel hurt by his actions.  However, it'd be best to stay away from him, until you can control it.  It's not your job to make him feel guilty, I'm sure he feels terrible already.  But you have to understand what he's going through if you choose to support him in his sobriety.  I'm sure it's going to be hard on him, and especially hard losing his job and license.  But he's an adult, and can handle the situation, I'm sure he loves you very much and wants to provide.  No matter how hurt you are by this, he's still your family and he needs you there to show you care. 

It ususally takes something big like this to happen for a person to realize just how much his addiction is taking control of his life. It's so good though that he's been sober for 8 days!!! I think thats amazing, I think you should do your best to support him. Help him out, hang out with him drive him around even if he doesn't need to go somewhere take him out. Show him how happy you are that he stopped drinking. I'm happy for you :)