Has anyone here ever accused someone else for their addictions?  Over these past years, I've been struggling with a marijuana and alcohol addiction.  I've blamed my parents past alcohol use many times and I can't seem to get past the fact that it's all over now.  However I still feel like I've ruined the relationship.  I've apologized for playing the blame game but I can't seem to get over everything in the past. 

I knew a guy who had to go to work everyday at 4:00 AM. To wake him up he'd do cocaine, and he developed an addiction. He blames his addiction all on work and on how he has to wake up early and coffee and energy drinks arent enough to wake him up. He keeps using that excuse and till now he still does a line of coke every morning before work.

I used to get in trouble a lot at school and friends and just a bunch of stuff and when I'd get introuble I'd put all the blame on my mom because she divorced my dad. I thought that if I made her feel bad for something then I wouldn't be in much trouble. I feel terrible for doing that now because I did hurt her with some of the things I said and its so wrong. And the worst part is my parents divorce doesn't even  bother me one bit. I'm actually glad they divorced I wouldn't have it any other way. I regret that but I guess a lot of people when they cant admit that its their faults for things they try to blame it on others so they dont feel guilty.

My brother would make up all kinds of excuses for his addiction to marijuana.  It was so hard to try and talk with him about quitting.  I remember he would say, well at least I'm not drinking hard alcohol or addicted to hard core drugs.  I would tell him it's not the point, anything can be used as a drug.  And he would argue back, well "you were the first one to try marijuana, not me.... You got me into it."  It was so stressful, I guess you can't convince someone why drugs are bad, or why they should quit.  It has to be their choice, that's the important thing.

Duude said: My brother would make up all kinds of excuses for his addiction to marijuana.  It was so hard to try and talk with him about quitting.  I remember he would say, well at least I'm not drinking hard alcohol or addicted to hard core drugs.  I would tell him it's not the point, anything can be used as a drug.  And he would argue back, well "you were the first one to try marijuana, not me.... You got me into it."  It was so stressful, I guess you can't convince someone why drugs are bad, or why they should quit.  It has to be their choice, that's the important thing.

Ive realised that something needs to happen to people to finally show them that they really do need to quit. Maybe a failed relationship, a DUI... Something big, and its really sad that people allow this to happen to them wehn they couldve stopped while they were ahead. But thats how most addicts are.

I used to find all my parents flaws and bring it up when I would get in trouble, if they fought I'd blame that on the reason why im messing up my life, I'd bring up things in the past that have bothered me, a divorce, moving, something they accused me off. My immaturity would hurt my family so much just so I could feel better when my mistakes are forgotten for the moment. I really regret that.