Hey guys....newbie here.  I'm 25 years old and I wish I was troubled with just one addiction.  I'm addicted to drugs...especially adderall and marijuana.  I drink excessively, have wild random sex, and I either gamble my money away or I spend all of it shopping.  I eat too much because i'm always stressed out and I'm a pathalogical liar.  Don't even get me started with my internet addiction....i'm pretty pathetic.  Is anyone else like this?  Which addiction do you tackle first?  Or just how do you start to get better?  Is it really possible to control all of these destructive urges?  Any kind of advice would help....friends and family dont know all of this, they just know I'm a mess.  Thanks for listening :)

hi happilyevraftr it is a good start in itself to admit you have a problem and need help. hopefully the support from this site will start helping it. i think thats the reason why most of us are here. there are dual diagnostic facilities that can help you in more than one area and also maybe a psychologist or a counselor. maybe there is a deeper issue that you dont know is bothering you that much or something happened to you to make you react this way. i was having anxiety attacks for about 6mo and had to go to a psychologist to find out why and eventually we talked about so much and found the root of my problem. these are just suggestions. hopefully you can find the help you need. i wish you luck!

I think it'd be best for you to surround yourself with family members and positive friends.  Regarding addicts, there is no controlling destructive habits, it's all about taking things to the extreme.  If I were in your position, I'd probably work on the behavior that's affecting me the most.  Having wild, random sex is like playing russian roulette with your body, you could catch an std easier than you know and that could ruin  your life. Hooking up is just sex without disregard of feelings and emotions, it's all about in the moment sexual attraction.  That behavior can be really addictive and hard to get away from.  Look at all of the people in your life and really think if they have your best interests at heart and if they're really your friends, or just using you.  AA meetings helped me a lot when I felt I was spiraling out of control.  You're brave to admit all of this... I wasn't, I knew in my heart I needed help, and going about things with just my help made my recovery a lot slower and harder.  For now on, think about how your decisions and behavior are affecting your life and everyone around you.  If you know in your heart that  you're a good person and you're doing things right, then you can be a positive role model and inspiration in someone's life.  And you can be proud of yourself for turning your life around. 

It sounds like you have an addictive personality.  I have a few friends like this, except instead of having all of these addictions at once, they go through stages.  Like first they're into stealing, then weed, then drinking and sex.  You can only live this lifestyle for so long, and the sooner you quit the better.  You say you want to have a husband and family one day.  But you need to start living right now so that you can find a good husband that loves you for you and won't be distracted by your addictions.  If you have nothing to live for now, live for your future. 

I think the first thing you should start tackling is the drug and drinking problem. When your mind is clear your going to be able to beat the rest more easily. I would also suggest so psychiatric help also. I trully beleave they can help a lot.

I think you need to trust a family member with this. Family will be there forever and they will be able to help you a lot. Much mroe than you can imagine. Tackling an addiction is very tough and I dont think you'll be able to do it alone.. tackle the big ones first. Stop doing drugs, stop drinking. Get your self busy with important things like a good job, or maybe college. Keep busy stay it'll keep you away from other addictions also. Psychologists can also help you a lot and I really recommend talking to one. They could help you step by step and lead you to the right path and from then on you'll find your self a much brighter and better you.

Do you have any positive role models in your life that you can reach out to?  What eventually got me sober (I was a pretty big mess too :P) was spending a lot of time with close friends that were doing good in life and achieving their goals.  Be open-minded and set a goal for yourself of the type of person you want to be, and figure out how you can get there.  Make a list of things that you won't do anymore, set limits for yourself and allow yourself to change.  It took me about a year to make a full turn around, but I'm so proud of myself, it's really amazing.  I know you can do it!

I think you should tell someone very close to you. Trust them with your problems and they may be able to help you out in more ways than you could imagine. Recovery is very hard without support. I think the first think you should tackle is drugs. Stay away from them, drugs will never get you anywhere in life and they'll bring you down till you hit rock bottom if you let them, dont let them and stop. Get into a treatment center if its too difficult. Then the wild sex with strangers, I suggest that goes next. You never know what you could catch from them and its just not good. Find someone you can settle with and you can have as much sex with them as you want, its safer and better. About gambling your money away, stop that! keep your self away from casinos, put money on the side and save it and whatever you do dont touch it! shopping is necesary in life, I cant tell you to stay away from that but limit yourself. Think of things twice when you buy them and after. And have someone monitor you. Your going to need help in this so I really think you should trust someone. Inform us on whats going on with u :) goodluck!