"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32). The basis for forgiving adultery is the fact that we ourselves are forgiven. That is, because we are forgiven we can then choose to forgive some one else. This does not undo the offense and indeed, unless the other person asks for forgiveness, they cannot receive the benefit of that forgiveness. But we benefit because we remove ourselves from the burden of carrying unforgiveness in our own hearts. Unforgiveness is like acid that eats into the soul and it breeds a whole range of other detrimental results such as bitterness, lack of compassion, and rancor.

I definitely want to mark this in my Bible if it isn't already. This is something I'm struggling with right now. How do we forgive someone who has hurt us so deeply? I feel as if I got backstabbed by someone and it is hard to just turn around and forgive them. I thought we were supposed to forgive them though even if they don't ask for forgiveness. I think it's because we aren't supposed to live with the hatred or hurt in our hearts. I've been asking God every day to soften my heart and allow this hurt to be healed. I know right now that He is the only one who can help me so I just need to continue to pray and ask him to help me and the weaknesses in my life.

This is hard for me too.  But praying for the people that hurt you is important also.  We should pray for everyone, especially troubled people in our lives :)