My brother struggles constantly with the person he wants to be.  He's against drinking and is getting involved with church.  But he's also in recovery, well he did recover from weed.  The problem is, he has trouble saying no when his friends offer him beer.  He really, really wants to say no, but he feels like he's letting his friends down by not having a drink.  I'm not really sure what advice to give him.  I figure he'll gain the security to be able to refuse alcohol with time, but is there anything that helped you or soemone you know with this step?

I think it's best to be honest with them.  If he's had trouble with alcohol and drugs in the past, then he should feel comfortable telling someone his situation.  I have a lot of repsect for people who can refuse a beer when everyone around them is drinking.  I think if he's going to set a standard for himself that he's not going to drink alcohol, then he needs to stick with it. Or else people won't take him seriously and they'll just keep asking him. 

When I don't feel like drinking, I simply say no thanks I have to drive or I'm the designated driver.  Or sometimes I say that I have a big test or am working the next day.  It shows that you're responsible and don't really have a desire to drink.

I  went through this stage where I didn't want to drink but I felt like I had to infront of my friends. But I decided to just put my mind to it and stop. I remember it was on new years eve and I didn't want to drink while everyone was offering me, I told them that I really didn't feel good and I know I'll throw up if  I drink. Next time I told them i had to drive, and just kept making excuses untill I told them that I'm really giving up drinking. They still try to convince me but they know I wont give in.

I think its fine to just admit that you dont drink. I'm sure people will be like"what? comeon you have to" and things like that but after offering you a few times they'll stop. And they'll understand.