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4/20/2008 1:38:11 AM countrylove
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I think that recovery from anything is HARD but for me it is becoming
exceptionally hard. I am honestly addicted to sex with my wife. We have
been together for almost a decade now and I still think about sex with
her all the time. So much that its becoming an issue not only at work
but at home with her as well. We have children and its to the point
where I get upset and "hide in our room" just to keep my feelings to
myself. Its hard to concentrate even. I know you must be sitting here
thinking its good that I still love my wife so dearly but to her its
become an issue and she's getting upset because I am persistenatly
wanting to make love and she has the children to deal with. Also for me
its hard to work as I am constantly wishing I were home with my wife. My wife is here by my side. We are going to have counseling and try to calm my urges. I guess it could be worse. At least the thoughts are about my wife and not anyone else. I'm trying very hard to get past this and move on with my life. Wish me the best.
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4/20/2008 9:30:01 AM alexdg1
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countrylove said: I think that recovery from anything is HARD but for me it is becoming exceptionally hard. I am honestly addicted to sex with my wife. We have been together for almost a decade now and I still think about sex with her all the time. So much that its becoming an issue not only at work but at home with her as well. We have children and its to the point where I get upset and "hide in our room" just to keep my feelings to myself. Its hard to concentrate even. I know you must be sitting here thinking its good that I still love my wife so dearly but to her its become an issue and she's getting upset because I am persistenatly wanting to make love and she has the children to deal with. Also for me its hard to work as I am constantly wishing I were home with my wife. My wife is here by my side. We are going to have counseling and try to calm my urges. I guess it could be worse. At least the thoughts are about my wife and not anyone else. I'm trying very hard to get past this and move on with my life. Wish me the best.


Yes, I can imagine how tough it is having an addiction to sex.  People who have never had this addiction, or aren't empathetic enough to at least imagine themselves in a similar situation, often snicker and make silly comments such as "Gee, that sex addiction thing isn't so bad."  It is bad, particularly for the person who is the center of the sexual attention that isn't always welcomed.


And, yes, I agree. At least it's your wife you want to make love with and not other women.


Good luck! 

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4/20/2008 11:04:19 AM princess2008
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Yes I agree with Alex good luck to you and counselling will help for both of you, it is very hard to overcome it but the fact that you recognise what it is doing to your relationship is great and I really do wish you the best.
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4/25/2008 4:21:52 PM FoxMan
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Good luck with this, I'm sure it is going to be very tough but you can make it through it. Look at the glass half full not empty, your not having affairs with your wife, and your wife loves you and is by your side to help you get through this. I'm sure you'll make it through and be good again.
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