Have you guys ever noticed that it is really hard for a guy to forgive? Much harder than it is for a girl. I've messed up many times and my girlfriend always forgives me and never mentions it again. But she's only messed up once, it's a lot less worse than all the things I've put her through but I just can't seem to get over it. Maybe it's because I've always portrayed her as PERFECT and now she messed up but its always on my mind and its kind of ruining our relationship. How can I get over things and forgive her? My friends say sometimes things take time to get over but its been 4 months and I know its so stupid because it really is NOTHING compared to the things I've put her through. Is it harder for any of you guys to forgive too?

My brother is this way with his girlfriend, she once kissed another guy before when she was on vacation.  I couldn't believe she did this either, and he absolutely hated her for it, he thought she was disgusting.  I was like okay, it's been months and it was just a kiss!  Time is what worked for him, and she was very aware of what she did to him, and she was genuinely sorry.  But if your bf is using it against you and making you feel bad about it, then maybe you should take a break and let him cool off, because then he will feel what he's missing and hopefully realize his mistakes too.

Try not mentioning it, dont think about her flaws and what she has done but what you love about her. With time it will go away. I dont think it's worth losing her over a mistake that she knows was wrong.

I think it takes a guy to mess up much worse than the girl did for him to be able forgive her.

I knew a guy who cheated on his girlfriend so many times. She cheated on him once and he never ever forgave her for it. He would still be cheating and everytime hed cheat he'd just accuse her of doing the same thing. He ruined their whole relationship and still wasn't able to forgive her for what she did when he put her through so much more and she forgave each time. They're not together anymore because he basically shredded their relationship apart. But I think its better this way.

Depending on which age group you're in, typically guys are much less mature than girls.  They may use dirty tactics to make girls feel bad, to get what they want, or for sympathy.  And girls end up getting hurt.  Bottom line, some guys just aren't mature enough to handle a serious relationship, especially if they allow themselves to take interest in other girls.  And some guys will grow out of it, some wont.  Thankfully I did, but I'm 26 now, it took a little longer than expected!

I think it gets easier to forgive others, when there is change in the person asking for forgiveness.  When I use to be really messed up and selfish, I would lie to my boyfriend like it was nothing.  Eventually started seeing how lying is one of the worst things you could do to a person and I felt so bad so I stopped.  Trust is so valuable to me now and I am 100% better about telling the truth.  He's forgiven me, but only because he knows that I've changed.

TeamPink89 said: I think it gets easier to forgive others, when there is change in the person asking for forgiveness.  When I use to be really messed up and selfish, I would lie to my boyfriend like it was nothing.  Eventually started seeing how lying is one of the worst things you could do to a person and I felt so bad so I stopped.  Trust is so valuable to me now and I am 100% better about telling the truth.  He's forgiven me, but only because he knows that I've changed.

I used to think lies were normal, everyone does it and a few white lies could never hurt. I became very good at lying to this one person and karma came back around so much. I've already vowed that in my next relationship I wont even say the whitest lie.

That's a great decision to make.  Lying only leads to more and more lies, and then we get accustomed to lying and feel weird when we're not lying!!  Think how bad the world would be if every person was a liar.  I've met a few compulsive liars and that just gets under my skin!  I feel like they took something from me! It's a disgusting and deceitful way of communicating.

My mother always told me that nothing good comes from lies. Whether its a big one or a small one. You will get caught up in your lie sometime or another and you'll regret it so much. It's better to be honest in everything.

I think it really just depends on the guy and his beliefs.  If he's lied before, and has had a history of bad behavior, then he'll probably be more understanding if his girlfriend messes up.  And I think it also depends on whether or not you're actually sorry for whatever it is you did.  And also whether you confessed or you got caught.