Hey I'm new to this website. I have a problem with marijuana but I'm kind of embarassed to talk about it with my friends and family here. I've been getting caught up with my parents because my car always smells like it and I hate the way they've been looking at me lately. There's so much disapointment in their eyes and I cant bear it. They're great people and they do so much for me, I cant keep doing this to them. I want to get help but I dont want to let anyone in my social or family life know. So I guess this is my first step. I'm admitting it and I'm asking for help from everyone on here who can provide it.

Well if your physically addicted to it I suggest slowly cutting down. Say you smoke every day, cut down to maybe 3 or 4 days a week for about 2 weeks, then to 2 times then 1 then none. It makes it easier to deal with the withdrawals when you quit gradually. Also try joining NA meetings. Your parents and friends wont find out about it and you get the help and support you need. Stay on this site too and get as much support as you can from all the users and even the psychologists on here.
Good luck let us know how your doing :)

Hey my name is nick and  I am 21 years old I have been smoking since i was 9 years old and I have strugled with not knowing are beleaving that I have a serious problem I guess I thought it was only weed its not a big deal but now ive hurt so many people because of my addiction and gotten in to trouble with the law now im on probation droping every month and even though I know if i drop dirty im going to jail for 16 months I caint stop using I have a wife and 4 kids that I love and dont want to leave again and all over a drug but when i try to stop im angry and always mad im afraid ill loose them i have tried going to group it doesnt work i use before i go just to deal with it i can open up on here because you caint see me know can see me I dont know what to do I dont want to go to jail I have to see her tommorow at 8 in the morning and i have used today I tried not to I gave in

Well, you have a big decision to make that's going to affect you for the rest of your life....  If you ignore a problem, the consequences just get bigger and bigger.  You sound really desperate to quit, but you have to find the will power in yourself to quit.  Being angry and causing fights is only the beginning stages, you will get better with time!  At first, most people hate sobriety, you even have to practice sobriety, it make take 3-4 months until you start feeling normal.  But everyday you're getting better, you may not feel like it, but you are. Think of withdrawals as a good thing, because they're signs that your body is getting rid of the drugs in your body.  Personally I'd rather go through withdrawals/mood swings with my family than by myself in a jail cell.  Either way you have to get sober.  And the sooner you start, the better. 
People will be undersanding, I promise.   As long as you're showing tremendous effort, they will forgive you.  It's a lot easier to forgive someone once you've made changes and then after that, ask for forgiveness.  But asking for forgiveness with no actions means a promise that's probably going to be broken. 
There's things you can do to speed up your detoxification.  The sooner you come up clean, the better.  Drink tons of fluids, especially cranberry juice.  It has antioxidants in it, so it naturally detoxifies your body.  I hope this helped you, I'm sorry you're in such a tough position right now, but you can get through it :)

well I saw my p.o today and I just came clean and told her I had been smoking this morning I felt like running away but when I left to take my mother-n-law to work I thought about not coming home to face the trouble I made for my self but all I could think about was my wife she is 27 years old and has stood by myside I hate that im a let down but she never downs me but I know deep in side anyway my p.o was mad and disapoited that i have been smoking I think because i came clean and told her the truth before she tested me it helped although she expressed it will be myblast time she gave me this weekend to serve in jail away from my family i know i need help but she dont understand know one knows the trouble i see knowbody knows but me money is a issue i got to be in a drug class to have an eval. done and no money to do it all of this i think of and it drives me crazy im in a corner and it lookes like i have know way out any ways thanks for responding

in situations like these you need to look at the positive. at least you are coming clean about what you are doing. thats a major step and i think it must be done to come clean. and you are extremely lucky to be married to a woman like your wife. she knows she made a commitment to you and its for better or for worse. support from a family is very important i have found, so youre lucky. i also encourage you to read the user (sober)s blogs on this site. i came across his profile by mistake and started reading them a couple weeks ago and it has really made me see things differently yet know at least someone has felt the same way i do. there is something to hold on to though and that is hope. people battle addiction everyday and everyone does to a certain extent. people conquer addiction and I believe with time and willingness you can too. please keep us updated.