What is the right thing to do when someone threatens to kill themselves?  I have a friend who has this girlfriend that absolutely drives him crazy, he'll do things that piss her off and she degrades him and can't seem to let things go.  He'll call me so pissed and yelling about how they can't quit fighting and says he just wants to die cus he's so in love with her.  When it gets to this point, what do you say to someone that always says they're going to kill themselves when they're enraged?

I've never heard a recorded case of someone killing themselves out of anger at another person. It takes extreme levels of guilt and depression to drive someone to suicide. If she makes him so upset and angry, why does he stay with her?

She's his first love, they've been together almost 3 years.  He has problems with drugs and weed and can't seem to stop I guess.

Honestly, I could be very wrong about this, but I dont think they mean it when they say these things. I had a boyfriend who would always threaten to kill hisself whenever I broke up with him. And I fell ofr it everytime. It was the only thing that kept us together but he loved me so much. After a while I couldn't take it anymore and after breaking up during a fight I changed my number right away, and went out of town for two weeks to get away from him. He never killed hisself infact he's still alive now and putting another girl through the exact same things. But this was just a part of his personality, thats how he cries out for attention.

I've noticed that when someone is serious about commiting suicide they don't tell anyone. When they do its calling out for attention.

You're right, people aren't all of a sudden suicidal, they're usually depressed for a long period of time.  My little brother had a friend in high school and he was very depressed and he started giving all of his things away to his friends, which was a little wierd, and then one day he killed himself in an orchard on the outskirts of town.  It was really sad, but it's important to pick up on these things.  I think everyone's case is different, but maybe his girlfriend should talk to his parents and let them know that he's threatening to kill himself so that they'll be aware.  And maybe they should take things down a notch, it's incredible that someone would think about killing themselves over a relationship, he's really young right?  Your first love is always the hardest... maybe explain to him that this isn't the only girl for him, people break up and move on, it's a part of life.

I got really mad at my ex girlfriend once because I found out she cheated on me. We were out of town and in NewYork when I found out. I broke up with her and she went crazy begging for me back. She threatened to kill herself, our flight wasn't till the next morning and she spent hours crying trying to get me back. After she realised it wouldn't work she went into the bathroom and started cutting her wrists. She was a bit of a drama queen and I was already too mad and didn't even bother stopping her. She came out with her wrists bleeding and but i still didn't do anything and I guess she realised I wasn't going to give in. She grabbed a towel and kept stopping the bleeding. She didn't want to die it was a call for attention, and this happens in so many relationships. It's effectful too.

Most people who actually follow through with killing themselves won't mention anything about it.  They may even have an unsuccessful attempt.  But it's so important to watch out for warning signs.  I've never lost anyone close to me, but I've helped a few friends who've lost a loved one.  Teens have a high suicide rate and even the elderly.  Life shouldn't be taken for granted; we're responsible for our own happiness.

I've dealt with a girlfriend that was like that. Everytime I'd break up with her she'd threaten to kill herself. She even cut her wrists open and threaten to hang herself on a tree in her backyard. She was psycho and I was scared she'd actually do it so I would stay with her through out all of it. I had to actually move away and change my number to get rid of her. Its been 3 years and till now I'm scared to see her. I wont even associate with anyone who talks to her.

I think he's just saying that out of anger. It's like when you get into a fight with your mom and you start saying "I hope she dies" but you dont mean it. If he was really going to kill himself he would've already done it and without telling anyone.

hi Tazmania,

I'm going through the same thing as you did.   My girlfriend cries and gets angry if i try to break up with her.  This last time, she threatened to kill herself.  I know she loves me a lot and she's a really good person, but i feel like i'm being held against my will.  its not as easy for me to pickup and leave.  Do you recommend anything?  any advice?

thanks,

    I think it'd be helpful to both you and her to tell someone that can help talk some sense into her.  She's obviously hurting a lot inside, but if she's making those types of threats then the relationship is unhealthy.  I had an ex that would threaten to kill himself when we would argue.  I would say lets jut break up I can't take this anymore, I don't want to be with you, things like that.  And he'd of course threaten to kill himself so I'd feel guilty and stay with him. 
    Honestly you seem like you're a nice, level-headed guy and no one deserves to be threatened like that.  Like I said, maybe consider talking to one of her friends, or someone neutral who has both your interests at heart.  Maybe talk to her parents and let them know that their daughter needs some extra support. 

thanks Laditta.  I appreciate your support.  it just seems lately i've been living in this cloud of smoke!   I'm going to try talking to a counselor and see what she thinks.   I'll keep you posted.  Thanks again for the advice.


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thanks Laditaa.  I appreciate your support.  it just seems lately i've
been living in this cloud of smoke!   I'm going to try talking to a
counselor and see what she thinks.   I'll keep you posted.  Thanks
again for the advice.