I live with my mom and brother and my family has had a history of drug use, except for my mom. My brother has been smoking pot for a few years now and I'm trying to talk to him about quitting and he's slowly but surely coming around so I'm not so worried anymore. Addiction broke up my family and I still have many scars from my dads alcoholism.

Yesterday my mom and my brother and I were at the dinner table just chatting. My mom was at a training this past week and she just got back so we were all catching up. Out of nowhere my mom said hey, who took my pipe? I figured she had found one of my brothers from a long time ago and confiscated it. I don't do any drugs and I said that I didn't know what she was talking about and told her it wasn't mine and my brother said he took it. It was a little funny to me because I was completely innocent and my brother was finally caught.

Out of nowhere my mom said to put it back because she uses it. I was half shocked and confused becuase my mom was always the one who got us in trouble for stuff like that and she was always perfect. And at this point I still thought she was joking. I had this sorrow set in because I had a totally different view on my mom. She thought that I knew, but honestly I had no idea. She was so casual about it and said I thought you knew, only talking to me, that she'd been doing it every week for a year. She said that it helped her sleep better. I started balling and her and my brother felt really bad about it. She swore she wouldn't do it anymore and that she wasn't addicted to it and I said I forgave her for it but I'm still really mad about it. Parents are suposed to be role models and not bring that stuff in the house. I don't know what to think anymore, I feel like I can't trust anyone anymore.

I dont think you should be too worried about it. I dont think you should agree with it but dont let it bother you too much. I know you see your mother as a role model and a perfect person but she is also human and humans also make mistakes. not everyone is innocent. As long as your mom has her life on track, isn't high all the time and getting caught with drugs by cops or always having weed on her then dont worry too much. Talk to her about it and try getting her to quit and stop. But dont let it ruin your day.

As long as she said she quit then that counts for a lot. If she was addicted she woudn't have any intentions on quitting. Help her and make sure she does. Everything will be alright.

sundance-I have felt that very same way that you did. I too learned about my parents past and present. my father was hiding his smoking addiction for years and would hide in the back to smoke and if we came outside to find him he would hide it behind his back..like we were that stupid. It's so difficult because here I thought he should be telling us that smoking is bad, but he's been smoking for years. It's just so weird like should I be telling him that smoking will kill you? I just feel like I am the child and he's the parent, that means he is supposed to be parenting me about what is right and wrong and good and bad.

Parents are role models and always advice us on important things, and I'm sure no one could ever picture their parents doing something bad. But they're also human and they too can also make mistakes. They still have a past and if drugs were a part of that then its going to be hard for them to stop it in the future. I dont think it should be promoted but it also should be understanded and everyone should help to stop this.