My mother and stepdad are both addictes andthey are the only reason i'm in foster care! they have done almost every drug out there to do so my chases of making a good life arenot good at all! like 1 and100000000000 %

Hey Dippy,


I know from personal experience, it's hard with messed up parents. The most important thing to do is keep yourself grounded, in mind, body, and spirit. No no one's parents are perfect, some don't even act like parents, but you have to make a point in your life to stand up for yourself and do what you know is right simply because it's the right thing to do. Just because your parents don't encourage you to do something, doesn't mean you can't. Live for yourself and be happy!

dippy i know how it is to have messed up parents, maybe not with drugs but with other things. my dad has been absent my whole life and whenever he is around alwys finds ways to make my life worse. what i learned to do, after like 17 years was to just not care about him anymore. i completely deleted him out of my life so now everything he does, whether he is around or not doesn't affect me. ofcourse when he does call me out of the blue i am nice to him and never show him my true feelings because i dont want to hurt him, but i just make it to the point where he has no affect over me. live your life for your self and done let your parents past have any control over your future. make the besst out of every situation. good luck and keep us informed =)

-bubblebutt

i dont think you should let your parents faults affect you this much. try making the best out of every situation and keep doing good in school so you wont ever end up like them and that you would have a good future. in this case you should just concentrate on how to make yourself better, and happier.

dippy_2011 wrote
My mother and stepdad are both addictes andthey are the only reason i'm in foster care! they have done almost every drug out there to do so my chases of making a good life arenot good at all! like 1 and100000000000 %

The odds are against you, but that doesn't mean you can't make a good life for yourself. I've worked with foster children and I can easily say I am very proud of many of them. One is about to finish college at the age of 23 (no small defeat these days) and she has never done drugs, nor does she smoke or drink too much. She is smart and knows she's better then that.

Another one is 21 now and in the military. She had a very difficult childhood and things did not come easily to her or her sister. She didn't let that stop her from getting where she is, once she is out of the military she will go to college and it will be paid for by the military.

Another is 28, graduated from college and is still going to school to become a DOCTOR! She's wanted to be a doctor since I've known her, which was at the age of 16. Her sister is a freshmen in college.

Another, 22 year old, she's going to school for criminal justice and taking the test from the police department.

They were all good kids, although they had their moments as all kids do, and now they are all great adults. Please don't let the fact that you are in foster care hold you back. You can still make something great out of your life and have a normal life. While it sucks, there are benefits if you go out there and find them. I don't know where you live, but there is probably help for college wherever you want to go. I know Cal State Fullerton will pay completely for 5 years of college for foster children who are accepted, and that includes room and board. Don't sell yourself short!

I agree with Ms. Rodriguez, just because your parents made some bad choices doesn't mean you can't grow up to be successful. My parents dont' have drug problems but I feel like they were never there for me emotionally, they were always working and I could never talk to them. But I ended up finding out who I was for myself and figured out what I wanted to do with my life. Even though I've made a lot of mistakes, I wouldn't change my situation with my parents because in the end, I made everything work.

I know how hard it is when the odds are against you. I don't know my father, and my mom's addictions (in addition to her bi-polar dissorder) lead her to be abusive and blame me for everything. I never thought I would even live past high school, let alone succeed in anything. I promise you can do it. I moved out when I was 17, and have been living almost entirely on my own ever since. I'm 20 years old and going to graduate college with a bachelors degree in less than a year. It's been extremely hard, and I know I haven't been in foster care so I'm not saying I know EXACTLY what it's like. If you put your mind to it and work your butt off, you can do anything.

1 out of 100000000%?? I dont believe that at all. Its your life your living not your parents and your parents dont need to have anything to do with it. Manage your own educaton get a job, and once yo have an education you can make lots of money and become financially stable, find a great guy and make a wonderful family without the mistakes your parents made with you. Dont let this idea that just because your parents are addicts and messed up mess up your life. You have nothing to do with it, all you can do is not make their mistakes. And be more positive.

Why are you going to make the same mistakes your parents did and live their life all over again? Create one of your own. Go to college, get a good job, have an amazing life without drugs and alcohol and all the things that ruined your parents. And when you have your life settled out and perfect then help your parents make theirs better! Don't hold grudges either.