My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. i love her with all my heart and cant imagine life without her, but she can be very abusive. when she gets angry she says many rude comments that she doesn't mean and her hands start flying all over the place. it gets embarassing to have to walk into work with a black eye every other week, and i dont know what to tell my colleagues. or when were with people and i bother her a bit she pinches real hard or back hands me. i probably sound like a baby but shes a tough girl and the stuff she does is actually very painful. i dont want to loose my girlfriend i just want her to be nice to me.

it seems kind of careless of your girlfriend to be doing that. a relationship depends alot on respect and it doesn't seem like she really respects you. i know you probably dont want to hear advise like this but there are other fish in the sea, and maybe you can catch one thats not very fiesty. and who knows maybe youll like the new one even better. im really sorry to be advising you this but i really think this would be the best thing to do.

I agree that if your girlfriend does that she does not respect you. Some people can become addicted to "abuse" . You deserve better then that and shouldnt have to put up with such treatment. If she loved you she wouldn't treat you that way. Unless you like the abuse, I would say that you should tell her to stop hitting you or to move on to someone else.

I wonder are you really in love? Does love hurt the other? Or is this your understanding of love? You don't have to take the abuse dished out to you by your girlfriend.

This is really a twist of events; since, usually we hear of the man abusing the women; but here we read you are being abused by your girlfriend.

Have you told her how you felt? Does she realize she is really hurting you? If she does and continues to hit you..wouldn't you say there is no love?

Some people may need help to be nice, imtom. It could be imtom, that your girlfriend may have such deep rooted issues that can onliy be taken care of by counseling. If she loves you, she will stop abusing you. You need to stand up for yourself and tell her she has to change..

It must be really hard for you imtom to have the one you love abuse you in such a way. When things are on a normal keel in your everyday relationship do you discuss your feelings to her about her actions and tell her how much it hurts you when she swears and lashes out?

i've been in an abusive relationship before, not physically but abusively.. we tried everything you could imagine, breaks, talking, counseling everything. hed get better for a while but then go right back to the way it was. im sorry to say this imtom but if shes abusing you she probably wont stop. i loved my ex alot and i still wish we could have worked things out because he was so much fun and cool and i could never find anyone like him, but honestly as much as i loved everything, im so much more relaxed with out him.

No matter how angry she is at you, she still has no right to hit you so hard you need to sport a bruise or a black eye at work. Why was she angry anyway? It is because of what you did? If she gets all worked up because of small things, then as painful as it is, she may not be worthy of your love.

Man its time you stand up for your self and give it back to her , be a man don't take that for a girl what are we men to think , if this is happening to one of us

Hitting her back is not the answer. THis is abuse no matter what the sex of the abuser is. This is not a loving relationship.

It's not going to get better unless you ask her to stop it. You may even have to spend time apart for her to understand you are serious. Talk about it with her and if it continues you will really need to take a different approach.

Love isn't supposed to hurt! Talk to her and tell her this needs to stop, I agree if she loves you she will stop,