My family is concerned about my Dad who is a compulsive spender and has had money problems for years. His marriage is in jeopardy due to his history of mismanaging money to the point of foreclosure of his home. He also is a recovering alcoholic (sober 30 years). Additionally, he is very overweight causing several health problems and an inability to keep at a reasonable weight. Can you provide us with a counselor specializing in compulsive spending and an understanding of several addictions? Also, what can we do to provide help without enabling his addictions? I wondered about a family meeting. We live in the Cleveland, Ohio area. Thanks. – Suella
Dear Suella,
I can understand your family's concerns about your Dad. Your letter actually indicates that he's had three serious addictions in his life, alcoholism, compulsive buying, and compulsive overeating, two of which are still active. It sounds very sensible to look for someone that is well versed in a number of addictions. Unfortunately, I don't currently have a resource in Columbus, Ohio to recommend to you. What I would suggest is contacting The Illinois Institute of Addiction Recovery in Peoria, Illinois. They are likely to have resources to recommend close to you. I think your idea about having a family meeting is a good one and tt might be useful to find an interventionist in your area to work with your family toward that type of meeting.
I wish you and your family courage, patience, and persistence in bringing more clarity to the situation and helping your dad to feel motivated and loved by your involvement.
Warm regards, April Benson
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