I met a 39 yr old lady in July of this year. I fell in love with her fast. Over the past 4 months she has revealed to me that she considers herself a sybarite. She said she has been with more than 500 men and women. She says she is sex smart. She seems consumed with internet sex chat, planning the next tryst, has a married 64 yr old travel companion that sends her sex toys, and the list goes on. I love her dearly for she has a good heart. I am afraid I will lose her if I press the sex addiction issue with her. What can I do for her?
This sounds like the problem goes beyond Internet addiction and is systemic of something deeper. At 39 to have had so many partners and experience sexual addiction in this way my first thought is what type of treatment has she been in before? If she hasn’t taken steps to deal with her behavior or even acknowledges that she has a problem, which most addicts do suffer from denial, then it doesn’t seem you can do anything except to help her come to terms with relationships such as yours that she will lose to her sexual addiction. For most addicts, the consequences of the behavior don’t matter until they hit rock bottom. When they suffer a loss of something so great that they feel that they can’t live without it, then, and often times only then, they start to consider seeking help for their behavior.
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