5/8/2008 3:35:00 AM -
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I am 15 years old almost 16. I love my virginity last summer. And technically have had sex with 4 guys. The first time I didn’t even really know him I just wanted to get sex over with for the guy I really wanted to impress, who was 17. After those two I got into a long term relationship and have sex every time I see him. My mom sees me as perfect which is worse. I don’t know what my problem is. I have cheated on this guy several times and I even had sex with his best friend. I see sex as no big deal but really it is big. I tell everyone I respect my body, but honestly if I think about it I don’t. I cannot tell my parents, for they will be so upset. I don’t know what to do. Please help me.
You are using sex to get something other than intimacy. You could talk to a female school counselor for a place to start. You sound like you are reaching out for something. Be careful, you could get a disease or pregnant so talk to a counselor to see if you can get insight into the why you are doing what you are doing.
My husband and I have been married for 12 years and he has had a lot of problems thru the years what I have come to know as a sexual addiction. Internet sexual addiction for awhile, then he said it was that he desired the unknown and the sex with someone new. But, said everything was great in his home sex life and marriage. Well I have now found out he had an 2 separate affairs while out of town on business, once with a prostitute at a mustang ranch and 5 times with someone else he met, what kind of help does he need?? He says he gets these urges to have sex with someone he doesn't know and can't control them or resist them, this has ruined our marriage. I don't want to give up on our marriage, but I don't deserve to be treated this way time and time again. I want to be supportive and try and get him help, he says he will try anything, but I don't understand his feelings because I don't have the same problems as him. He believes he is a sicko, pervert or something. I know he has to be willing to change or it won't matter if he gets help or not, it has to be him who is willing to change and stay away from the temptations...please help me save my marriage..
He could start with 12-Step support groups for sexual addiction and read some recovery books such as The Final Freedom: Pioneering Sexual Addiction Recovery. If that is not enough he may want to try counseling or a 3-Day Intensive at Heart to Heart Counseling Center which could really jump start his recovery. You’re right about him needing to reach out for help. If he doesn’t get help this behavior can ruin both your lives.
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