As a sex addict, your brain has been conditioned neurologically to your acting out behaviors. Many sex addicts were exposed to pornography at a young age and began to masturbate and/or fantasize with it. Every time the addict ejaculated, he sent a rush of chemicals to his brain called endorphins and enkephalins. The brain as an organ of the body, has no morality. It just knows that when it gets a rush of what I call "brain cookies," (or chemicals) it feels good. The rush could be from heroine, sky diving, sex or cocaine, but what ever has caused the rush, the brain as an organ would not have a moral dilemma on how it got this rush.

After frequent ejaculations brought on by acting out, the sexual addict begins to develop neurological pathways in the brain while acting out sexually. The brain as an organ, adjusts to getting it's neurological need met by the cycle of going into a fantasy state and 20 to 30 minutes later sending the brain a rush of "brain cookies" through ejaculation.

To recover from sexual addiction, you must retrain your brain to not connect the fantasy world with these so called "brain cookies." To stop this biological cycle that the sex addict had set up sometimes for as long as 10 years up to 50 years ago, we need a biological reconditioning cycle. Place a rubber band on either wrist and when you start to objectify, fantasize, or have sexually inappropriate thoughts snap the rubber band on the inside of your wrist. This sets up a cycle in your brain that says "fantasy = pain" instead of "fantasy = pleasure." The body is designed to avoid pain, and so this will reduce the amount of fantasies that you are having and eventually lessen the sexual thoughts so that you can focus on your recovery.

The average person who is very consistent with this reconditioning exercise of the brain finds that about 80% of the fantasy life-style subsides within the first thirty days and if continued throughout the first 90 days, they find intruding thoughts are minimal and manageable with other exercises from the 101 Exercise Book.

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