After reading other exercises in this book such as What My Addiction Took From Me, What My Addiction Cost Me, and My Worst Moment, you may have discovered in several dimensions what sexual addiction has really cost you. This realization can truly be painful and you can have very sad feelings accompanying the realization.

Although at the moment you feel this pain and discomfort, there will also be days ahead when your addiction will attempt to have you forget it. If your addiction can get you to forget this pain and discomfort, it will become easier to talk you into "another ride" on the sexual addiction train. It is in the pain and discomfort of the reality of what your addiction has cost you that you may feel committed "not to do that again!" In the hopes of strengthening your recovery and giving you one more tool to assist in your recovery, you can capture this moment of pain in order to rescue yourself in the future days when your sex addiction wants you to join in again to destroy you.

Use the back of a business card that is blank and write at the top of it the word "COST" along with what your addiction has cost you and what it could cost you five years from now. Write yourself some notes that only you would understand and place this in your billfold and when you start to feel the addiction try to talk you into acting out, pull out your card and talk back. Having the facts puts truth on your side and you may escape a relapse this time.

EXAMPLE:

COST
Now: $52,000
5 Years: $135,000
When left house
Emotional illiterate
1 marriage

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