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May 23 -
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Similar to alcoholism, sexual addiction has many different varieties. With sexual addiction, you can have any number of behaviors and/or combinations of behaviors. Some sex addicts have involved objects such as sex...
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May 23 -
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Some sex addicts have utilized professional services such as parlors, phone sex, lingerie modeling, and prostitutes from the personal advertisement page of the newspaper. Some sex addicts tempt themselves by "just...
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May 19 -
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Being the visual creatures that sex addicts typically are, magazines can stimulate them into unhealthy thoughts. Magazines have made objectifying women a science, and are created to get you into a fantasy state so that...
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May 09 -
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Movies/DVDs are dangerous territory for sex addicts trying desperately to recover successfully. The movie theater can be a nightmare if you don't have boundaries in place. I can't begin to tell you how many stories I...
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May 02 -
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Television presents some major dilemmas for the sex addict. The current pop culture is a highly sexual one. The increase of sexually explicit scenes, jokes, innuendoes and the showing of naked bodies and extramarital...
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Apr 18 -
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Sexual addiction and boundaries don't mix very well together. In your sexual acting out days, you probably wouldn't be able to recognize a boundary if you tripped over one. In your sexual addiction recovery life-style,...
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Apr 14 -
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Many sex addicts have trouble because of years of conditioning to masturbating to women portrayed in pornography. Videos, movies, and magazines sell this "object" and actually condition men to objectify women's...
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Apr 07 -
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When you look at someone in a sexual way, you are objectifying them. You need to begin to see this person as someone who has feelings. She may have children and/or parents who love her or she may have been badly hurt...
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Mar 31 -
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The three-second rule is simple but when applied, can save the sex addict from collecting more visual data about someone than is needed. If you are looking at someone in an inappropriate manner, count to three and then...
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Mar 26 -
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As a sex addict, your brain has been conditioned neurologically to your acting out behaviors. Many sex addicts were exposed to pornography at a young age and began to masturbate and/or fantasize with it. Every time the...
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Feb 11 -
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Dr. Doug Weiss on the Joni show. Click on this link to view the show. [More]
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Jan 25 -
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Reading recovery material that is specifically related to sexual addiction is important. There currently are many books on the market addressing sexual addiction. It is very important to read some recovery material...
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Jan 23 -
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Prayer is something that many sexual addicts find difficult to do. This is especially true if they have been avoiding God because of the shame and guilt of their behavior or possibly what was done to them in the past....
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Jan 22 -
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This exercise may be obvious to many sex addicts but for the benefit of those who have never read anything about sexual addiction recovery, this exercise must be discussed. Cleaning house at the beginning of your...
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Jan 07 -
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Recovery, especially from sexual addiction, will probably be the hardest undertaking of your life. The sex addict in his acting out days, has clocked in hundreds and sometimes thousands of hours repetitively sexually...
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Dec 06, 2007 -
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Relapses in the very beginning may occur. Turning a relapse into research is very important to keep you from making the exact same mistake again. Researching your relapse takes rigorous honesty. If you relapse, ask...
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Nov 16, 2007 -
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This exercise is helpful to the recovering sex addict to lessen the need to be totally in control of your sexual organs. At some point in your recovery, you will do a Step Three. This is where you turn your "life and...
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Nov 09, 2007 -
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In recovery as we discussed earlier, a phone call may be your only link back to reality. In a moment, your addiction can sweep you off your feet and have you swirling in thoughts, pictures, devices and an entire host...
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Oct 21, 2007 -
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After reading other exercises in this book such as What My Addiction Took From Me, What My Addiction Cost Me, and My Worst Moment, you may have discovered in several dimensions what sexual...
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Oct 15, 2007 -
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Every addiction costs the addict something. You can probably talk all day about emotional, relational, social and vocational losses that occurred due to your sexual addiction. Determining the cost, in financial terms...
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Oct 05, 2007 -
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In the addict's active sexually addicted life-style, he rarely thinks of the pain he is causing himself or anyone else. In recovery from sex addiction, when the addiction "talks to you" it will try to sell you as to...
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Sep 28, 2007 -
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In recovery whether it be from alcohol, drugs, sex or food, H.A.L.T. has been used to stand for the feelings Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired. These are important feelings to avoid for the recovering sex addict. Simply...
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Sep 24, 2007 -
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Dealing with emotions for sex addicts can be tricky. Many sex addicts early in recovery have very few feeling skills. During recovery, especially after completing your feeling exercises, you will begin to become better...
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Sep 04, 2007 -
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Unlike Alcoholics Anonymous, in the sex addiction recovery movement, there are several different groups you can attend. These 12 step support groups vary slightly in name and in practice. To make it more complicated,...
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Aug 24, 2007 -
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Ninety meetings in ninety days is an old Alcoholics Anonymous saying. What this meant was that an alcoholic starting recovery was told to attend an AA meeting every day. This did several things. First, it allowed him...
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Jul 30, 2007 -
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Your partner or spouse has probably suffered in many ways from your addiction including the inability to be emotionally intimate, financial loss, humiliation due to your behavior and the list goes on. If she is deciding...
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Jul 25, 2007 -
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Lohan's relapse comes as little surprise, experts say
By Sharon Jayson, USA Today
Douglas Weiss,...
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Jul 23, 2007 -
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By now you are probably getting the sense that recovery from sex addiction has something to do with identifying and maintaining boundaries. This is true of any recovery, whether it is alcohol, drugs, sex or food. With...
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Jul 17, 2007 -
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In your recovery, you will go through many different stages. During your growth you may consider changing your boundaries around entertainment and other areas. This can be a positive experience if the timing is right....
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Jun 29, 2007 -
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Making one list for boundaries can help you be aware of the different facets of your addiction. This list of boundaries may be a helpful reminder to review daily, or regularly, during your recovery. Your boundaries are...
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Jun 22, 2007 -
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The reality of AIDS is everywhere. As addicts, you definitely need to be aware of your possible risk. If your sexual behaviors have included other people than your wife, you definitely need an AIDS test. This is not...
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Jun 18, 2007 -
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After you have completed the feeling exercise for about a month, you will have become more skilled at knowing what your feelings are. Gaining the skill of knowing what your feelings are is a necessary prerequisite to...
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